Post # 1
Sorry to vent, but… Out of 71 invitations that went out for ~120 guests, we have *one* left who has not replied. (Our RSVP deadline was 2 weeks ago.) The one who has not replied is one of our groomsmen. He is *in* the wedding for crying out loud. FI has tried to corner him more than once now to get a response, but our delinquent groomsman is always at work and says he needs to check in with his wife to find out what she wants to eat. Now I find out that he also hasn’t been fitted for his tux yet. I asked all of the groomsmen to get fitted by June 1st, as in, a whole month ago! This guy is almost 40 years old, so he should be grown up enough to get these things done without FI and me nagging like we’re his mother. Also, he has a kid, so on the one hand, he’s a parent, so he’s busy. But on the other hand, he has a kid! So he should be mature and responsible enough to get things done in a timely matter. Grrr…
Post # 3
Oh, how frustrating! I hate feeling like I’m herding cats. Or a mother to people my own age! I think someone needs to tell him he needs to nut up and take care of the obligations he agreed to when he agreed to be a groomsmen, and unfortunately for your FI, I think it needs to come from him. He needs to tell him to pull it together! Good luck!
Post # 4
I think its a guy thing!
When FH and I were together about a year a good friend of his asked hi to be in the wedding. I told FH he needed to think about it 1st because a lot goes into being in a wedding. Well FH called his friend A WEEK BEFORE THE WEDDING to tell him he wasnt going to be able to be in it! And FH has been invited to about 5 wedding since and has NEVER RSVP’d.
It makes me sooo mad! Lucky for me they are HIS friends he needs to deal with. And is also another reason why we are not having a bridal party and he isnt inviting many people
Post # 5
We had a GM who never sent in his RSVP card or sent his tux measurements. The RSVP card didn’t bother me since I knew the name of his date already and we didnt’ need a meal choice, but the tux situation was very stressful. After several calls, emails, etc. from both my husband and the tux shop, we FINALLY got him to merely give his suit size which was as close as we could get. This was 2 days before the wedding, mind you. The tux actually did not end up fitting him at all, the pants were way too short and he had to go to a dry cleaners the day of our wedding and have them let out the tux pants.
Post # 6
@moderndaisy: Good to know at least that tuxes can be confirmed 2 days out. Lol.
I got all excited when I got home today b/c there was a reply card waiting for us in the mailbox. Turns out, it was just another one of our guests who confirmed her RSVP over email. I guess she decided to send back the paper card anyways. FI was supposed to call our delinquent groomsman this evening. I’ll find out how it went once he gets home. Ugh.
Post # 7
You know he’s going to be there so put him down as yes. Yes, he’s being an ass not replying, but seriously? Don’t give yourself more stress than you need. Call his wife and ask what they want to eat. If you still don’t get a reply, put them down for whatever and if they don’t like it too bad. As for the tux thing, have your FI tell him that he has to do it by XXX date or else there will be a fee. If he still doesn’t do it…. well I guess you’re out a groomsman? lol good luck!
Post # 8
Just call the wife and ask her what they want to eat and tell her her hubby has yet to get fitted and you would appreciate her helping in pushing him to the tux place. Good luck!!!
Post # 9
Unfortunately, I don’t have his wife’s phone #, and anyways, she is even harder to track down that our groomsman. (She’s a doctor at one of the local hospitals, so she’s generally on call at odd hours, or otherwise asleep, or taking care of their son. I have never once gotten her to reply to an email.) FI left a phone message for our delinquent groomsman last night, so we’re hoping to hear back today.