- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Hi, first I want to apologize for such a long post… I have 7 bridesmaids and everyone else gets along just fine except for this one who I have known since 5th grade. She has always tried to be in competition with me but I have always just “let it go” bc she can be quite nice. for example, she is already married (4 yrs prior) and didnt have a ceremony or reception… and the day after i tried on gowns and chose the bridesmaid dresses, she went out and bought a gown (one that i liked) and stole one of my wedding theme ideas.. it all of a sudden became about her wedding ceremony. i had to step in and say something since it was making me crazy. she understood and settled down a bit. but that is not where it ends…
Recently, she has tried to take over Maid/Matron of Honor and plan a personal shower, (and insisted i have one even though i repeatedly said no) etc., even though the main bridal shower is already planned. the other girls are getting fed up with her demanding behaviors. Recently they all met up and she was dropping comments that i am “demanding all these things” which i never asked for anything. also, she was telling me that her and her husband were going to a wedding in april and asked how much money would i give for a gift and i told her what i thought would be appropriate to give. she took this number that i suggested and told the other BMs that i am demanding this amount for my gift. i never said that. the other BMs were shocked that i would say this and were upset with me for demanding this amount. it took a lot of explaining to get that straight. she has constantly been switching words around and playing it off that she didn’t say any of that. there are so many other things that i said that were switched around that i can’t even list them all i would be going on forever.
not to mention, i have been having significant health problems, including pain and finding a lump. when i called her to tell her this bc i was upset before i went to doctors, i got a text response of “i have my own issues in my life” and hasn’t asked since i’ve been since. i just can’t fathom having this girl in my bridal party. put aside the stressors of the wedding, she hasn’t even been a supportive friend. i should have had the red flag go up way before i even asked her to be part of this day. despite trying to talk to her, she still does not see where she is at fault at all.
please help how i should handle this situation.