Post # 1
4 of my coworkers got married this spring and they recently got their photos back. They are plus size and looked adorable, super happy, and confident in their pictures. However, they won’t stop whining about how much their photographers supposedly sucked. They claim that the editing/lighting/angles etc make them look fat. They asked for my opinion because I used to be a photographer and honestly, the photos were actually really flattering! I wanted to say “you look more trim in the photos because of the poses and subtle editing” and “the photos don’t make you look fat, your fat makes you look fat” but that would be mean even though it’s true. I just said that I think the photographers did well and that they shouldn’t beat themselves up about the way they look because they were gorgeous. They claim that I don’t understand because I’m in shape. One of the girls gloated that she bullied her photographer into a free re-shoot after her bariatric surgery this fall by threatening to write a negative review.
The thing that frustrates me is that the other three are going to write bad reviews even though they got great photos. I’m thinking of going back to my old career and starting up a new event photography business. Is it really common for brides to leave poor reviews just because they don’t look like supermodels in the photos? There are plenty of obese brides who love the way they look and don’t complain, but if you’re self conscious about huge arms and back fat why would you buy a really right strapless dress that cuts straight across?! Is there a kind and polite way to deal with potential client’s expectations?
I’m sorry if my post offends anyone, I just want to figure out if I’m cut out to do bridal work!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
@CoolBeans: Whoa, I never knew that even could happen. My photographer has shot tons of fat brides and I’ve never seen a bad review. Your coworkers sound like nut jobs. That’s too bad they’re going to give the photog a poor review.
Post # 4
@CoolBeans: I’m sorry, but you can only do so much. If you are a plus-sized bride, nothing is going to hide that. No angles, lighting, or editing will change your body type. Same thing goes for brides who post their wedding photos here complaining about looking fat. Listen honey. You are fat. You know it and don’t need anyone to convince you otherwise.
Fat is just as beautiful as thin.
Post # 5
I’ve never gotten a bad review from an over weight bride. I also would not let anyone bully me. But to be fair I am very choosy about who I work with so I normally weed out people with personalities like that. Threatening me would not work! If you do great consistent work then one wacky review shows itself for what it is. I just don’t work with jerks
Post # 6
I have seen plenty of posts from unhappy customers…not just from “fat brides.” I remember one was about a bride who thought her photographer took bad pictures of her hair.
Not sure why the fat thing gets under your skin so much but I imagine if you pursue bridal photography you will come across plenty of brides with insecurities of various kinds that they blame on the photos.
Post # 7
@lealorali: Haha my workplace tends to attract nutjobs, hence my desire to quit. I only took the job because I needed something temporary and it pays well! I’m glad that the bad review thing seems unusual to you… hopefully nice brides are the norm!
@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon: Love your username!!! I totally agree with you, and I think that some people are afraid to face the facts. If you’re fat, you can either own it and don’t let it affect your self esteem, or take steps to lose weight if you feel so bad about it that you want to change. Beauty comes in different sizes 🙂
@Jbbee: That’s good advice, but sometimes it can be hard to weed out the crazy lol. What usually tips you off that a client might be unreasonable? Can I put “I just don’t work with jerks” on the contract? 😉
Post # 8
@icetea: Thanks for your response – my background is in sports and portrait photography from when I worked for a local newspaper. I have a good instinct for capturing important and fleeting moments and developing enough rapport with subjects to get a nice headshot, but wedding photography is a whole different challenge! The fat thing just gets under my skin because that’s what I’ve been exposed to through my coworkers, and it’s also something that the photographer has no control over. Photographers have little control over the hair/makeup but I would kinda understand if a bride were iunhappy because a huge chunk of hair was out of place in ALL of the photos and the photographer said nothing about it at the time so that it could be pinned back in place. I guess I’ll just see how it goes 🙂
Post # 9
Wow, I never even thought to blame my photog for the three pictures where my arms look chubby… I blamed Ben&Jerry! Blaming the photog would certainly have been easier!
Post # 10
@CoolBeans: on my about me section I do say ” I don’t do bridezillas”. Normally clients who only ever ask about money or what they are getting, brides who can’t articulate why they want to book with you, brides who book last minute… My ideal brides are referrals who know they want to book me before they are engaged and who first contact me without mentioning price.
Post # 11
wow, just wow!
Photographers can only do so much…
My mother told me that she wanted to look 120 lbs and 25….um, my mother is 71 and 190 lbs….she was only half joking….I think she is going to be sorely upset with the pictures from my wedding of her…..she has a different view of how she looks than how she actually looks…
Post # 12
@Jbbee: I wish i didnt have to mention price…but my DREAM photographer….she does fabulous work….but would have to travel a state away….i sadly out of my price range for photography by like a couple grand….so now im learning how to book a photographer who i havent know my whole life……so unfortunately sometimes i have to ask about price….because i just cant do over 5K for bridal, engagement, and wedding photography with mileage to our wedding….i hope i havent been comming off as bridezilla by doing that….
hmmm damn it its been the camera making me fat! Crap! why didnt i know this….lol no its not a camera….its i like crappy food…lmao! some women….ive seen completely gorgeous skinny girls do the same thing with their wedding photos though…..alot of it with them is the attention seeking “ohh look how fat i am at 100lbs and 5’11″” some people just are never happy…..Im fluffy and I know it…if im Fluffy on my wedding day so be it….i certainly wouldnt blame the photographer…..thatd be like blaming a personal trainer for not getting me in shape if i only go to the gym 1 time in a year…. some girls just truly dont have a grip on their size….you get one body…own it, rock it….love it….because you only get one….
Post # 13
@kansas_nurse: eventually yes. You have to get prices etc. But when the first email is ” hello, what’s your price” and that’s it, normally doesn’t work out! 🙂