Post # 1
So I just need to vent a little bit. Maybe I’m just a control freak, but I’m really tired of depending on other people. I just want to get things done! I have just one bridesmaid who can’t seem to get measured or even do it herself. I’ve asked her to come over and let me do it and have been bugging her about it for the past month and a half. Then I have one groomsman who can sit and watch SO play a video game and drink beer but can’t seem to get in to get measured. Maybe I’m jumping the gun and have plenty of time, but it doesn’t seem like it to me. It’s a simple matter of peace of mind for me, one less thing to worry about. My concern is that my bridesmaid dress won’t be available when she finally gets around to measuring, or maybe it won’t fit her and there won’t be time to return it. UG! Is anyone else getting frustrated with the little details? Maybe I just need a good stiff drink!
Post # 3
@thmpper: Yes, a stiff drink might do the trick. It’s hard to reel people in. And I don’t take offense to this… your day isn’t as important to everyone else as it is to you. It doesn’t make it right, but food for thought.
Would it work to offer to take her out for lunch/drinks after getting measured? Sweeten the deal a little bit? Otherwise, I would just express to her your concerns about the timing. “Bridesmaid, it would be a huge load off to know I can check this off my list of things to do. Can you commit to getting measured by X date?”
Post # 4
I think those are good suggestions. I know she’s just busy, and maybe I just need to stress to her how much it would ease my mind to get it done. Thanks for responding. Hey, I don’t have to work tomorrow. I just might get that stiff drink and chill the **** out!
Post # 5
I hate it too, it is one of the reasons why I loathed group projects at school. I would just end up doing everything myself, because I couldn’t count on other people.
I had a few bridesmaid that were slow at ordering the dress, I worried alittle but it turned out not to be a problem.