Post # 1
I was just wondering if anyone else has a military BM? My wonderful Bridesmaid or Best Man: A is in the airforce and is currently deployed 🙁 Her departure date has been pushed up, so she will be back in the states 2 months instead of 1 for our wedding! yay
I know that SO MANY women (and bees) have deployed Fiance and Darling Husband as well as fathers, brothers and uncles (or aunts, sisters, and mothers) and it could be so much more of an emotional time.. but I can’t help missing my friend and wishing she could be here like we planned.. I guess I just need some encouragement!
How did you include her/him in the planning process and how are you handling ordering the dresses/tux and the fittings..Ive been sending pictures and regular updates to her.. but its not the same.. and ordering online (RKbridal.com) is making me nervous.. but I’m hoping everything will work out!
does anyone have any suggestions or encouragement for me? I would really appreciate it!
Post # 3
I think the biggest thing for you to remember, as I try to remember with my Darling Husband, is that she’s missing being here with you just as much as you’re missing her! It’s hard to be away from friends and family, especially when she knows she’s missing out on a lot of fun time with you.
However, right now she NEEDS to focus on her mission and those around her to keep them safe. It’s great to email her pictures and try to keep her in the loop, because she will want to know. But if she seems distracted or not as involved as maybe you would expect, just remember to not take it personally because it’s not that she’s being rude or forgetting about you — she just has to focus.
Also, don’t forget that she’s also away from her family and missing being in their lives too. When people are deployed they miss a LOT and it’s easy for them to feel unneeded or unwanted at home. I’m sure she’s really sad and bummed to be missing out, but once she returns, maybe treat her to a pedicure and lunch and catch up, then enjoy the time you have together!
Post # 4
I have a similar problem… Maid/Matron of Honor got her deploy dates awhile after the wedding and there was no way she could arrange to be here.
Last night, as I spent 2 hours bent over the paper cutter at work, I had some inspiration and am working on a package to send her, because I 100% need more things to do right now, haha.
Post # 5
Dont worry you cant do it and it will all work out well. Majority of my wedding party was Military including BM’s and Groomsmen. Hubby and I met in the Military so most our friends for both of us were fellow servece men and women. You would be surpirsed how much you can do and plan over email. I planned my wedding where only 2 of my wedding party were even in that state. I was not even in the state my wedding was taking place because I was in the Military still at that time too.
It can be done and it all will come together