Post # 1
I am really depressed about my weight and size. And it’s not like I haven’t done anything in the past to fix it, I really do have the willpower. It’s just that every time I get into it and get really proud of myself, someone in my family or even someone random has to make a snide remark about my weight and if it’s not my weight, it’s my face (acne). I have heard things like, “You don’t want to look big next to your husband.” or “If you would only take care of yourself (i.e. your face) you would look beautiful.” It’s so frustrating because it really hurts after awhile, I can only be resilient to for so long, now I’m 2.5 months out from my wedding and I feel like crap.
WHAT TO DO!?
Post # 3
@thegoogler88: I’m sorry 🙁 that REALLY sucks because I know firsthand how having acne can completely shatter self esteem and also weight insecurities on top of that are absolutely no fun.
Just remember that your future husband loves you for YOU, and not for your goal weight or flawless skin. You still have 2.5 months, so just keep doing what you’re doing, try to be as healthy as you can be and on your wedding day you’ll be a beautiful, glowing bride.
People who make nasty comments about other people like that are just flat out rude…it’s hard but don’t let them ruin a great time in your life with snide remarks and don’t let them derail you.
As far as skin concernes go, I don’t know if you wear makeup, but airbrush can cover a lot of imperfections and blemishes, which I am so happy about because I, too, am prone to breakouts.
Post # 4
I read this and my heart aches for you and then I remembered your name and thought “What!?!?!”. I remember your make up trial pictures and I remember thinking how beautiful you are. Your husband will be so happy to stand next to such a gorgeous lady.
I don’t really have any advice to give to you, but just wanted to give you a virtual hug.
Post # 5
@Mrs_Amanda: Thanks for the support! I appreciate it! Yeah I did airbrush for my trial and it went well. I’m going eveyr 2 weeks to get chemical peels and my skin has improved, it’s just obnoxious and hurtful when people pick on these things all the time. Especially because I’m 5’9″ they used to always pick on my height…
Post # 6
1. Ignore those nasty comments from those people. Every time they make those comments, they reveal their own ugliness. Is it even possible that they are jealous? Because they see you have the willpower and the ability to make a positive change?
2. Decide whether you are happy where you are or not. You have to want the change for yourself – not your friends, family, or even your Fiance.
a. if you are, enjoy it!
b. if not, follow the next steps –
3. Join our BEE-est Loser contest on the Fitness threads! There are some great women who give great support on there!
4. Say something back to those nasty commentors – “I do not appreciate you commenting on my weight/looks/complexion, it’s rude and unwanted.” Let them know that you won’t take their negative commentary!
Post # 7
Sounds like a tough situation. Having people make comments about my weigh leading up to my wedding would make me incredibly sad too!
Since you say you do have will power, can I make a suggestion? How about trying the master clease detox. It’s awesome because over the course of 10 days not only do you lose weight, but it cleanses the toxins from your body. When I do it I start to feel really good, light on my feet, and it give me a clear mind. It is said to help clear your skin (because whatever you ingest that may be causing skin problems gets cleansed from your body). Adn the last time I did it I actually lost 15 pounds.
I have done the master cleanse at least twice a year for the last three years. I’m acutally starting it again tomorrow. It is a great way to gain momentum on your weight loss, and renew your body and mind so that you are more inclined to pick up healthier eating habits. Once it’s over you tend to eat better to maintain the weigh loss and that renewed feeling.
Go to themastercleanse.org to get directions on ow to do it.
Hope this helps!
Post # 8
Thats sad that someone will run you down like that. I too saw your makeup pictures and thought you looked beautiful. Maybe they are saying that because they are jealous and run you down to make themselves feel better about their own looks. Just try to shrug it off cause no matter what you are definitely more beautiful on the inside compared to them since they are stooping to that level.
Post # 9
@Kari 2012: Thanks 🙂 I appreciate it.
@Reign14: Thanks for the advice and the website I’ll definitely look into it!
@hisgoosiegirl: Yeah, I usually try to respond in that way or just politely walk away. I don’t like confrontation so I usually stay quiet bout things….