Depressed after wedding…anyone else?

posted 2 years ago in Recaps
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

Jennifer99:  I think that sometimes we can build up this one day in our minds to be something that it will never be. Everyone has glitches in their day. It is over now, so you need to focus on your new life as a married woman! I’d be super bummed about crappy pics too. Maybe have a 1 year anniversary shoot? Buy a cute white dress and get some awesome new pics 

ETA: Post some pics! You need a second opinion on them 

 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m sorry all of that happened on your wedding day. I don’t have anything to say that will make you less upset, but try to focus on your new life with your wonderful husband.

Can you save up some money for a 1 year anniversary at some really nice destination? You can hire another photographer and get amazing pictures of your 1 year anniversary, maybe wear your dress again and invite the parents so you can have some nice family pictures.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I had some things go wrong on my wedding day as well. Most of us do. I could have lost it when I found out my DH was pushing my car into a parking space when it did not start when he was supposed to be getting ready. I could have cried over my younger sister deciding not to go the wedding after months of me trying to find her a ride at my own expense, and finally setting one up. I could have lost it when the “best man” and my DH’s brother never called and did not bother to even show up to the wedding. I could have lost it when my cousin who was to walk me down the aisle didn’t arrive until after the ceremony was over. I could have also lost it when guests who said they would show up to the wedding did not.

Instead, I chose to have enjoy my day! We put in so much effort (mostly me) in order to have a lovely day. I was prepared for things to go wrong, though. I tried to remain calm and delegate things to my BMs, when I felt stressed, but that was when we were getting ready. Everything turned out lovely. My other cousin walked me down. My DH found a replacement groomsmen so his other brother became the best man. The missing people were truly not missed. I had a wonderful day and I did not let anyone steal my joy. It is all about your perception…

In the end, you still married your husband, so your day was a success! Also, you cannot undo anything. I am willing to bet that everyone had a nice time, despite what went wrong. Did you see the post of the girl who got married outside in a storm, and everything blew away, then the power went out? She still had a great time. Eventually, you will feel better about this. If you still cannot move past it then I would recommend having a vow renewal, just the two of you, on your 5th anniversary. You can take pics, too. Perhaps, then you can make peace with it. For now, enjoy being married and moving forward in life. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

i can’t believe she have you purple flowers but hey I fit makes you feel better I wanted (paid and asked) for a navy blue with pearls cake and got an all white with sloppy drizzle on it lol and to top it off I pin spotted lighted it so there was no hiding it 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Things went wrong on my day too. I think it happens to everyone. I expected the day to just sail along and be wonderful but reality is, people are human and things are bound to go wrong. 

I ran late getting ready so I got 1 pic of my girls and me in my dress.

Guests showed up an hour early cutting into picture time.

My venue got my cake design wrong. 

My dress got dirty during pictures before the ceremony.

My venue chef “had no idea I was gluten free” and I could not eat till dinner! They had to send someone out to get my pasta (as told to me by my new coordinator who they hired three months before my big day and who i told about 20 times that I was gluten free!) 

Appetizers were never passed outside to my family taking pics during cocktail hour.

They left plastic on my decorations that I specifically said in my directions to take off (thankfully i noticed during cocktail hour) 

Dj didnt announce my popcorn cart so no one knew about my favors

They made me a gf cake instead of two cupcakes as discussed, which would have been fine had they asked me what flavor I wanted. Raspberry would not have been my choice! 

But it was a great day because I married the love of my life!! Focus on that and you will be fine! 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

I hope you find some peace and comfort soon.  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Sorry your day didn’t go as planned. I would second the advice of others who say to do another photoshoot of just you and your husband! We were also rushed for pictures and my hair wasn’t exactly what I wanted. Plus I had a huge pimple on my cheek that was nearly impossible to cover with makeup–thankfully it was in the crease of my face when I smiled so most pictures with family it wasn’t that noticeable. Fortunately our photographer gave us another mini session for free (I just posted it here in the recaps, and I’m really happy with them!), but it sounds like you should book a session with a different photographer.

We did ours just a few weeks after our wedding, so now would be a good time–don’t wait a year to have photos you can share with friends and hang up on your walls. Put your dress back on, get your hair did, go someplace that has really awesome backdrops, and you’ll feel so much more relaxed and happier. It’s still the beginning of your marriage (not just one day that didn’t go well)!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Train station ceremony / Hilton reception

Aw, sweetie.  I feel so bad for you reading all of this because it sounds like a lot went wrong.  I know it’s really hard sometimes, but try to focus on what you have going for and maybe try to make a list of things you actually liked or enjoyed about your wedding day?   One thing that’s important to remember is we all get this thing in our minds (part of it is just from advertising making women think this) that our wedding is the most important day of our lives.  WEDDINGS ARE NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT DAY OF OUR LIVES!  We can have many more special days.<br /><br />Bees are really supportive — maybe you should post some of your pictures!  We can help point out the positive things you might not be able to see right now.

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