Post # 1
Hey bees. I just thought I would share but do you ever have a really amazing dream and when you wake up you are just in a terrible mood the rest of the day because of how good it was?
Ive been having a hard time being happy lately and I think its because of two things. One is seasonal depression + lonelyness. My husband works ALL the time (hes military) I get a couple hours with him before bed and thats about it because they always make them work really late and he has to be in bed early because they make him go to work super early.
Also we live in alaska right now and i freaking hate it! Yea sure its great in the summer which is like…july/august but the rest of the 10 months are sh**! Its nasty out and has been for weeks and its still snowy. : /
Last night I had this amazing dream that my husband and I were at a beach and it was hot out and during sunset and we were hanging out in the waves and having a grand old time…then I wake up and im thinking well f*** im still stuck in this depressing, still hanging onto winter, place!
Anyways…I dont know what to do. Im currently in classes and we have exams next week and im so depressed its hard to concentrate on studying which stresses me out even more because I need to pass them…. I dont have any friends in this state either so I just dont know what to do with myself, I dont know how I can be happier : / Id like to “get a hobby” but we really have zero extra money right now its hard to try new things without spending any money. UGH.
Post # 3
@MrsTee: aww, sorry to hear your situation! ((HUGS))!
Have you been officially diagnosed with SAD (seasonal affective disorder?) it’s extremely likely in an area with little sun. They have special lamps that you can buy to have at your desk that actually help. I know it sounds silly, but I know people who use them! Have you heard of them?
Hope your exams go well despite your mood and you can get some time with your hubby. In the meantime, some simple and free things you can do to distract yourself could be starting a blog or trying our some cheap craft projects (check out pinterest for inspiration – I’ve spent dozens of happy hours on that website getting giddy over cute things.)
I know this is all pretty simple, but hope it’s a helpful little step toward feeling better!
Post # 4
@LilDrAnya: Ditto on the special lamp, my old boss used to use one every winter and it helped her!
Post # 5
@MrsTee: Does your insurance cover mental health? If so, why not see a doctor about it – perhaps you need a little extra help (which is fine, the brain is an organ like any other). That might be able to really help you?
Post # 6
The stress of exams is probably making it worse. I know how you feel though. My hubby is military too, so I know what the hours are like. The most important thing right now, is to focus on your exams. Once that is over, you should focus on making new friends.
There are actually a lot of different places for you to make friends. Being in school is an advantage, because I find school to be the easiest place to make friends because everyone you meet is on the same wavelength as you.
There’s also the wives club. They’re usually pretty supportive and active, and I”m sure they can help you settle in.
Lastly, there is also Meetup.com. These are pretty good at helping you make friends. I think its important for you to find other things to do to keep yourself occupied. I know it sucks, but its part of being a military wife. You still have your weekends (sometimes), and if you make sure to plan vacations, you’ll be fine. =)
Post # 7
@LilDrAnya: +1 on the lamp. They’re MIRACLES for people with SAD! 🙂
Post # 8
@MrsTee: I agree with the lamp. I used to live very far north and used one with great success. However, the thing that really made the difference was getting involved in the community. I know that you are involved with courses etc. but maybe you need to get involved in some local causes or interests…something to add meaning to your days beyond the course work and also something to make you get out and socialize.