Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2014 - Beach
I’m not sure what I’m hoping to get by writing this post 🙁 My wedding is in 4 months and I just feel like my friends are not happy for me. They are just not excited about anything. I’m moving in with my FI after the wedding to a new house we recently got and I just got so much to do and none is helping me out. I was there for each and every single one of my friends and helped them a lot prior to the wedding and I didn’t want anything in return it’s just an offer to help would make me feel good because i really do need some help. Maybe not help but a but of emotional support. Has anyone gone through this? Also recenlty (3 weeks ago) my cousin got propsed to, and she is having her wedding in september. Athough i think it’s so early (considering the where on and off before the engagement and not even living togther in the same continent) i always support her. But now it’s like we should have a bridal shower toegther and bachelorette party i just feel like my thunder had been stolen. I ‘ve waited for the past 5 years for this day to be my special day , but now it’s all about her and i’m just feeling really left alone
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
@myweddingbee: I’m sorry you’re having a rough time. People get busy with their lives and forget to support others. But it sucks, doesn’t it.
As for your cousin– if your wedding is in four months, I think that’s far enough away from your cousin’s to warrant your own parties. Don’t let anyone pressure you into “sharing” if you dont’ want to!
Post # 4
@myweddingbee: i learned quick that no one cares about my wedding as much as i do.
Post # 5
Unfortunately, while this is one of the biggest days of your life, it isn’t to other people. Your friends are probably busy with their own lives. Have you asked anyone for help, either related to the wedding or to the move? Sometimes all you need to do is make it known that you need help!
As for your cousin — you have four months between your weddings. This isn’t stealing your thunder.
Don’t stress over this stuff, and definitely don’t be depressed over it!
Post # 6
@myweddingbee: sorry to hear that you are depressed…..
My cousin got engaged about a few months prior to my wedding. She had been with this guy on and off for years. Most of the family had never even met him. So my wedding turned into a meet a greet and it was a little odd for me. In a weird way, I felt a little upstaged because more family seemed concerned with her engagement then the wedding that they were actually attending (not to mention that a good portion of the family had yet to meet my new DH).
I would definitely have separate bridal showers and bachelorette parties. You deserve to have your own and be the star of the day……
Please keep focusing on your wedding…… 🙂
Post # 7
@myweddingbee: i genuinely think that once ppl have their day they don’t care so much anymore! they’ve already moved on mentally from weddings to other stuff! the ppl that are most excited for me are my single friends! One friend who has just recently got married keeps reminding me of how wonderful her day was, and doesn’t let me get a word in edgeways about our wedding!! all my sisters are married with babies etc, so they’re priorties have changed!! as for this stealing thunder thing, i don’t actually get that. Have seperate showers etc, you shouldn’t have to share unless you want to.
Post # 9
I agree with the ladies about the parties. You shouldn’t have to share unless you want to. It’s your party, your day, you’re getting married first. Your cousin can wait.
As for the excitement from people…I can honestly say that I’ve felt no excitement from my FI’s family. My sister is the only one super excited and planning my wedding. At times I’ve felt sadden by it but in the end, as long as I’m happy and excited, who cares? It’s going to be your wedding and you’re marrying the man you love, that’s what should matter most.
Post # 10
1. Split your parties
2. If you really really need help, make them very discrete. Like, “Hey I really need someone to do X for me by Y, I’m swamped these days, would really appreciate a little support!”
3. Ask people one by one, personally, they might help more
4. If the task is hard, then hire someone else to do it. I ended up getting wedding planners as I didn’t want to bother anyone with my wedding to-do’s
5. Forget about your cousin and stolen thunder! Just continue to celebrate and be happy and look forward to the big day – it will all be okay!
Sorry I don’t have a lot to say to cheer you up, but I hope that my action-driven advice has helped a little!
Post # 11
Sounds like you are just being hormonal. No judgement here, I go through it all the time.
I personally would much rather do these things myself. It gets stressful and agitating when you have people offering to help you, and they end up doing more damage and good.
I think every bride will AT LEAST ONCE feel like their thunder got stolen, for some reason or another. I don’t have any advice other than what I did, I sucked it up and stole my thunder back the day of my wedding.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2014 - Beach
It’s not like I want everyone running around doing errands for me thats so unlike me but the help i was referring to was just caring asking of how everything is going on. I don’t know im the first one of my really close friends to get married i was just thinking they might be more intrested and it feels like no one cares that all
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2014 - Beach
yes it helped a lot 🙂 thank you