(Closed) Depressed/Vent.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Oh, that stinks. I can see both sides, I think you both are being a little extreme.  I totally get where you are coming from, but I think you are adding way too much stress to yourself, and beating yourself up about it too much. Maybe you should go see someone to help with the depression?

He also might not really understand how drepession and mood swings work, and why to you it really is the end of the world (at this point in time). Does he not realize the weight this has on your future?

You guys just may have very different ways of coping with things. I would not get upset with him, and try to calmly explain your reasoning for acting this way. He’s got to understand that you are stressed, and help you cope, not hinder you.


Post # 5
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am feeling depressed myself, and so I totally get how one thing can spiral into 15 things and suddenly you feel completely defeated.

I think for men, they like to fix things right away. That’s one of the ways they show love to us, by fixing our problems or doing something to help as quickly as possible. Perhaps this is why your guy says he can’t handle it. Women generally need to get it out of our system and vent (which is why this post is so nice!) and men don’t do that with their problems. I would say for you to first take a deep breath and relax. School sounds like it’s very important to you. But you still have to remember that it does not define who you are as a person. Try to focus on who you are at the core, what you want, and remember why you love the guy you’re with. That will help you calm down, and everyone thinks better when they are calm. Then decide how you can fix the feeling of depression. This won’t be a quick fix, and both you and your Fiance have to understand that. It will take time and communication between the two of you. Ultimately, this could bring you much closer.

I have just finished a Masters in Music and was a completely different person in school. My Fiance got verrrrry frustrated with me at times. I even got angry at me! Now I’m starting my career, moving to a new state, and planning a wedding – all at freaking once! So although a wedding should be a happy, carefree time, it is adding mega stress to my life and there is nothing that anyone can do to calm me down – except myself.

Good luck with all of this! I know this time will pass and you will look back on it one day. That’s the nice thing about time – it’s just keeps moving forward!

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