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posted 3 years ago in Beehive

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birdie

i feel so bummed about planning my wedding. a good friend whom we asked to be our officiant months ago just sent me an e-mail saying that he has to back out due to health reasons and he is unable to travel. a few weeks ago, another good friend of mine told me she needed to back out from being a bridesmaid because she just found out that she is scheduled for work training on the week of the wedding up to that friday. she's working overseas so she can't even make it to my wedding because of the training.

i can't help but feel so disppointed and depressed about these things. i keep thinking why does it have to happen to me? i know everything will turn out fine. i'm ok with uneven bridal party and we can easily find another officiant. but it's just not the way i imagined my wedding to be.... we'll miss out on having one of our best friends marry us and having my best childhood friend be there for me on the big day.

anyone else facing similar obstacles? i think typing this post has helped me cope with it a little bit.

3 years ago

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SugarSparkle

I am sorry about this.

If it makes you feel better, we didn't get the officiant we originally wanted because he was too pricey ... now we are working with an awesome officiant and are even more excited about the ceremony.

3 years ago

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HumarockBride January 2, 2010 Boston, MA

Only thing I can think of that might help is to remind you that you are still marrying the person you want to spend the rest of your life with ... which is the reason for all of these other people coming into your life. As long as you have him, you'll be okay.

3 years ago

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kayteebug Hurst, Texas

Our childhood pastor died about a week after my cousin and I set our dates. It was absolutely devastating. I have been paranoid ever since... constantly worried about any possible disaster.

Finally, the boy just said to me "If we get married in Vegas, just the two of us, we will still be married. If we get married on a beach, just close friends and family, we will still be married. If we get married in a huge church, with every person we've ever spoken to in our lives, we will still be married. Now isn't that the whole point??" and I had to agree.

3 years ago

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Sweeney2Be Aug 23, 2008 Twin Cities Minnesota

I learned to roll with the punches. I had a bridal party distaster, 2 actually. But in the end it all worked out. I did feel terrible for a bit, but it will pass. Keep your head up, in the end it will all work out I promise!

3 years ago

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suzanno 7/12/08 Richland, WA

We had a ridiculous amount of trouble finding an officiant - ended up with our FIFTH choice (who, by the way, did an amazing job).

Also, at the last minute, I had some very dear friends change their minds about coming due to work commitments, and family issues. That was really disappointing.

And the day before the wedding I tripped and fell off my deck, and was pretty sure (for most of the 45 minutes that it took to stop the bleeding) that I had broken my arm.

My dad really kept me grounded through the whole thing - he kept saying that as along as I was there, DH was there, any officiant at all was there, and two witnesses, we would be married. And the rest, really, was just a big party - very nice for all involved, but not that relevant to the actual goal of being married - bleeding or non-bleeding. Which is completely true, if totally annoying to hear.

3 years ago