Depression, Potential issues TTC, FMIL issues, what to do?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I think the key is to focus on your number one issue and deal with that first. In the long term, I suspect that this will be fertility related, because any lack of ability to have children will probably impact everything else. Have you had any tests to determine your fertility, and the possibility of early menopause?

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

UKbee:  Don’t worry, I understand UK healthcare politics… I’m English. I also understand mental healthcare politics. Several of my family are mental healthcare professionals (one is actually quite famous) and my mother also has various problems.

Are you receiving any help from the social services eg counselling, CBT? Because you don’t yet have children, I see no downside into investigating whether they can help you with the practical aspects of recovering from depression, which is your next issue…

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Are you sure you want to stop your antidepressants at this time? Seems like a very stressful time to do that and you could probably use that extra support for your upcoming tests, possible future diagnoses, and your wedding. If you can I’d reconsider that. 

 

I’ve had a lot of success with myfitnesspal and control weight swings. Its definitely helped with tracking everything and keeping n e on target. 

 

Good luck!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

UKbee:  You have so much on your plate! It sounds like you are a very strong person. Why are you going off the antidepressants? Is it because you may want to TTC? Just make sure you are under a mental health professionals care while you are doing this. It sounds like MIL is very draining. There really isn’t much you can do about people like that except set firm boundaries regarding how much crazy they bring into your life.

Anyway you and FI can get away for a weekend to just enjoy each other? It sounds like you need a break.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

UKbee:  Oh, also want to mention that 14 pounds in a week is probably partially water weight. I’m so sorry you are struggling with that! Hopefully they’ll figure out what has your metabolism so wonky.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

UKbee:  If CBT is no good, you have tried several times to stop using anti-depressants, and your depression lacks a psychotic element, it may well be that you need to stay on antidepressants in the long term.

It used to be that people were put on drug therapy for life, or near enough to it. It is only in recent years that this idea has entered UK mental health politics… the idea that most crises of mental health are only temporary. Personally, I think it has more to do with government cuts for services than good science; by getting people off anti-depressants, they can massage the statistics to claim that people no longer require long term support from the MH crisis teams. This means that they can get people out of the system and therefore make savings.

If this attempt to get off the pills was not a suggestion which came from you (because you felt that you had recovered), my suggestion would be to resume taking your medicine and to make sure that the MH team do not sign you off. You are a taxpayer and you are entitled to these services, just as you are entitled to receive subsidised prescriptions and dental care etc.

Many people do take anti-depressants during pregnancy now. It may be that you need to speak to a specialist about this, and adjust your dosage etc. But you don’t have to suffer in silence. If the pills are working for you, and you are struggling without them… I say take them!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

UKbee:  i would get a second opinion about that. It sounds like you may need to be on an antidepressant as a maintenance medication. The thing is, if you are thinking about TTC, it may best to come off of them anyway. You and FI should probably have a talk about that, given the fertlity issues in your family. 

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Just wanted to chime in on depression and pregnancy. I have a 16 month old daughter, and battled depression (even thoughts of suicide once). I had a rough pregnancy, and then a colic baby. Needless to say I soffered from post partum depression pretty badly. 

But I made it through, with the help of some medication for a while. It is important to recognize that you are more likely to experience it. I chose not to breastfeed my daughter because I knew I would battle depression. It was the best choice we made. She’s healthy and strong and very smart. 

And yes, there are medicines you can take while pregnant and BFing, I simply chose the route that would let me get more sleep. Happy, well rested mom = happy baby.

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