Post # 1
This may be a controversial/odd question but it occured to me the other day….
I was lying in bed with my husband and, as I often find, was suddenly aware of how much I love him – almost to the point of it being painful (in a good way!), its just so raw an emotion. Does that make sense?
Anywho i was thinking that the mother+baby love must be unimaginably raw and instinctive and great. Then I thought how can I love anyone more or the same as my husband if I love him that much?
So really my question is: do you love your husband as much as pre-baby and love your child differently but just as much… or does the child take some of the love away from your husbands ‘pot of love’. Do I have enough love to share?
Post # 3
I love FI differently now that we have a child, but it’s definitely not less. It’s such a different love between me and him and then between me and our daughter. It’s almost as if it’s a seperate part of the heart that deals with each love so my love for each of them could never take away from the other.
Post # 4
Is it something that slightly worried you before TTC or babies arrived? I had never thought about it and suddenly thought ‘oh I dont know if I want to share him’, but I couldnt imagine not having children? Never thought about it before.
Did your love change from a raw ‘i love you with every breath of me’ type love to a ‘you are my partner and father of my children’ type love?
Post # 5
I loved him even more after the birth of our daughter..because she IS a huge piece of me and a huge piece of him..and even more her beautiful self, of course (!). I love him more now because it tears me to pieces (of love) just to watch how sweet, tender and loving he is towards his daughter..our daughter. Our love created this beautiful, surprising being and that is really, really awsome..
Post # 6
I didn’t really think about it before TTC, so no I didn’t worry about it. I don’t really know how to explain how it changed. I think it mostly has to do with our changed priorities.