Des it creep you out when bees track other bees?

posted 3 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I have some bees who I am “friends” with, so I am aware of their posts and how they feel about a lot of issues because we converse in private message and on the boards. I am not sure if you find that creepy or not, but such is life. Also, I have a very good memory (edenic) so when I read something, I remember it. I wouldn’t use it to stalk someone because that is creepy. But if someone is going through an ongoing issue, I may reference what I read before. For example, a bee recently had a couple of deaths in her family and I also remembered that her dog passed away. I mentioned that I was sorry about all of that and I don’t think she took it to mean that I am a creepy stalker :-

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Aquaria:  i dont think its creepy but a friendly reminder that everything you say online can be found. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m actually glad when someone does their homework, and I see it before I reply. Like when you have a borderline-psychotic person posting about the same incident twice: in the first thread she showed her true colors, but in the second she’s painting herself as a victim, looking for sympathetic responses. It helps to gauge how to reply, for me anyways.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I don’t think it’s creepy, there are a lot of women on the Bee who have stronger personalities so their comments stand out. Or bees who maybe post the same thing over and over again but don’t listen, certain situations like that can really stick in someone’s head.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I always think it adds context when bees do this.  

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

If it’s someone who has repeatedly been pulling other’s legs or something, then I appreciate Bees looking at the previous posts and seeing the person’s history. Same as all these people who call “Bully!” and start their own threads shaming us Bees. I like to look back and see what they are referring to.

And I admit I was a total creep on one Bee and Googled her to see if she was actually 21, as she claimed. That was creepy, I admit. Haha. But looking back at threads isn’t really.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think that there are a few Bees who will always call out specific Bees on threads for having an adverse opinion than their own, and they honestly can be pretty volatile with it – especially when they dig up an old link to a closed thread and try to use a an old qoute to validate “why this Bee is always so “rude” or “opinionated” or whatver. I think it isn’t nessesarily “creepy” but I think it can be incredibly rude and juvenile – especially since those so called qoutes from old threads are occasionaly taken out of context from the original post.

This is not always the case but I do see it happen, more and more frequently actually.

On a side note, I “stalk” certain bees, or rather, I keep track of Bees who I find interesting or those who I have a raport with. Sometimes there are some who write a post that is pretty shocking and I will keep tabs just for updates… But I am not sure this falls in line with what you define as “creepy”?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@badabing88:  I agree

A while back there was a thread saying that a person’s FI was financially helping one of his friends for a bit and how they’re barely making ends meet and couldn’t afford to help his friend. Then the same poster in another thread discussed how their FI is a person of importance and makes a ton of money and women are always hitting on him.,

I love reading stuff like that. Maybe I’m too lazy to backtrack through what posters have said, but I do enjoy seeing when people do their homework. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Starling13:  WHO DO YOU KEEP TRACK OF? ARE YOU A SPY?

Just kidding 😉

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No. Some people post a TON so you naturally just see their posts all the time and associate it with their avatar/name.  If someone says something really obnoxious, I tend to remember them more easily.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I sometimes look through previous threads for pictures because I like knowing what people look like. I do this on the news too. It”s weird.. if I hear about someone, ANYONE, I will google them. I am insatiably curious. WTF?! There’s probably something wrong with me.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

No, sometimes people go back to read an OP’s previous posts to get some background. Sometimes it helps with advice (e.g., when they have a history of posting about the same issues over and over) and sometimes it helps identify people who are just trying to stir the pot. I pretty much always appreciate when a bee points these things out.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

I’ve actually done that before. Looked back at some of their old threads. Mainly because I want to get a better idea of their history before I put in my 2 cents. Usually I only do this if I see red flags in their current post. I don’t want to blindly post a response and it turned out there was more to this story that wasnt originally posted.

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