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Lol..."it's awesome and it's white!" is usually enough =]. Mine was simple enough "ooo it's strapless with a fit and flair skirt with some sparkles"....it's vague but still, it DOES describe it. But i didn't mind telling friends and family about it.
Yeah, I think it's perfectly acceptable to say something along the lines of, "I don't want to ruin the surprise!" Especially if, like most, your SO doesn't even know :)
I feel the same way that you do. I was really annoyed when I found out that my FMIL was sending pictures of me in my wedding gown to everyone ... We are having a smaller wedding, too, so I guess most people who are invited to the wedding already know what my dress will look like, on me. GRRRR She makes me MAD.
I tell people it's bright pink with a 20 foot long train and big poofy sleeves. 
I actually show pictures (on my iphone) to anyone who asks! I feel like it's still going to be different when they see it on me with my hair/ makeup done, veil etc., so why not?
Yeah, I don't really have a problem showing/telling people either (aside from FI of course!) My mom gets furious every time I do it in front of her though ;o) She's big on surprises and didn't even want to look at our wedding rings when we bought them!
I don't really mind, it comes with the territory of "when/where/what are your colors/where's your honeymoon" type of thing. They'll probably forget by the wedding rolls around. I don't want my fiance to see it till it's time, and I don't want ALL the guests to see bridals before hand tho. I never even thought about keeping it a surprise, till I asked a friend who designed her dress-- not even what it looked like-- and she wouldn't tell me.
I showed pics taken in the store to fiancee's family at thanksgiving and totally regret it. I got comments like "oh, that's really...different. Looks like a...tulip? (I have a fit-and-flare)" and "this was how much? So-and-so's daughter paid a quarter of that at David's Bridal". I wasn't feeling 100% confident about the dress anyway since I originally wanted a ballgown and now I feel like crap.
I don't see what the huge deal is actually unless they're asking for photos or something. I wouldn't describe it in front of FI, but if someone asked, I would just provide a general description of the style. I don't think that would give it away at all.
I just say it looks like a wedding dress and I love it.
I emailed the photo from the website to FMIL and a few friends but that was it. After that I started saying "oh you know, strapless, white, typical wedding dress... you'll see!" for the same reason of not wanting to ruin the surprise.
I wish I would have thought of a better way to blow off the question. I kinda felt forced to describe it. Next time it happens I will use some of your suggestions.
I understand what some of you are saying about general descriptions and how it's not like they are seeing a picture...but to me, describing something as general as the dress silhouette IS the biggest part of the dress, and everything after that are just tiny details. I wouldn't want my guests to know whether I'm wearing a ballgown, or a sheath, or a fit and flare, etc.
If they're going to be guests at the wedding, I feel it's plain rude for them to ask what your dress looks like. Telling people about other aspects of the wedding is different. It's the bride's entrance that you want to be dramatic (at least I do) and people should respect that moment by not asking for a preview.
I can't stand that question and just usually say, "you'll see..." or "it's a surprise..."
I'm also not a fan of showing pictures because people form opinions from a look that is not complete. I'd like them to see me all put together and that's on my wedding day.
I whip out my iPhone, and show them a picture. I've been doing it for almost a year now, and I get some funny looks sometimes, but it's not a secret to anyone. My fiance has seen me in the dress.
lol @ amanda.lynn, I like that one!
I've shown a bunch of people pictures :) It doesn't really bother me, because that day it will look totally different on me, in the right color, cut to my figure, with my hair and my makeup... so I don't feel like the surprise factor will be lost. But if I didn't want people to know, I would just say "it's white, strapless with a train!"
@aqua - I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks it is rude! I just think it is totally off-putting to ask that!
I think you can just tell people it's a surprise and leave it at that. I wasn't too concerned with other people knowing, as long as I was able to surprise my husband.
I don't mind sharing, but they always ask when the FI is near by! (And I want it to be a surprise to him.)
my mom was so excited, she was showing everyone until i told her that wasn't ok. my fault for being dumb enough to leave it at her house. but i don't mind telling people, i'm bad at describing it anyway.
I get a little annoyed with this quetion, but I dont think people realize they are being rude. I think they are just excited and trying to create conversation about your wedding. I alway just half ass describe it. The more confusing I make it sound, people always give up trying to invision it. Anyways there are sooo many dresses, there is no way they will know what it looks like from describing it. I have been asked so see a pic, that annoys me and I just say no.
I think it's fine if you tell people you want it to be a surprise, sure;y they would understand. I usually just smile and tell people it's white.
It's just weird becaues I never even thought to ask anyone what their wedding gown looked like before going to their wedding, unless I was in the bridal party.
I'll pretty much tell anyone and everyone what my dress looks like. I used to have pics of it on my camera and when I did I would just show people. My descriptions don't really do it justice and it will still look special on my wedding day. I'm just learning throughout this whole wedding planning process not to be overly sensitive. People are excited and want to talk about the wedding and usually that means *all* aspects of it. If you don't want to talk about your dress just say "Oh, you'll see on the big day!" with a wink and a smile. No one is trying to be rude when they ask that question. Just be happy that they're interested :)
I think I'll tell the big details to my bridesmaids and close friends, but I want everyone else to be surprised and in awe of me on the big day!
So yes, I will hate that question too once I have my dress.
Yea - that does get annoying. But remember, it's only temporary. Soon your big day will come, it will be over, and no one will really say much about it to you again! Eat up all that attention while you can get it!
I think I would respect the "it's a surprise" answer if I was in that situation.
I'm the same way! I've been trying to show pics of myself but only from my actual camera. But then, one day my FSIL was over at my place while I was still at work, and she was looking through my camera while my FI was in the room!!! GAH! That bugged me royally. As soon as I got home, I deleted the pics.
no one has asked me yet except for those who have gone gown-shopping with me.
i told my fiancee that i wanted a fit-and-flare gown before i started gown shopping. BUT, just to stir things up a little, i told him a few days ago that i've changed my mind and decided that i want a super puffy ball gown. i also told him i've found one that i "loved" and that one has little bow-ties and pink flowers ALL OVER the gown :P i could tell he was thinking "O-M-G.." but he didn't say anything haha
I don't like it when people ask me either! I usually don't know how to explain it anyway but I feel like I shouldn't have to... since they'll see it soon enough! But, there's not smooth way to dodge the question, so I usually say some random stuff, like "oh, its a-line and taffeta and blah blah blah". Chances are that by the wedding day, they won't even remember what I said so they won't know that I was making it up! Lol
I wasn't aware people asked such a thing. I think it's ok to tell them it's a surprise.
TingTing - That is too funny! Did you ever find a dress or still looking?
I think most guys are clueless when it comes to these things and even if they saw it they wouldn't remember. I came home one day from my hair&makeup trial run with one eyelid painted blue-silver and the other one brown-gold, and FI's first reaction was "You look beautiful baby" 
Meliss - no i have NOT!!
and it's getting frustrating! i know i still have until the end of January since i'm getting married in Mid-September, but time flies........ i'm so picky that i start to considering getting something that's "good enough"...
I do describe it, but am usually only asked by good friends. I've said "it's pretty fitted, and does the crossy thing all down the front" which I think both describes it and leaves it vague. I don't want people seeing the pics of me in it, but I'm ok w/ this vague description. I do like the idea of just saying, oh it's awesome and white! And leaving it at that :)
It depends for me. I had a friend get married last June and she kept her dress hidden and refused to talk about it or let anyone see it. I think she was afraid we'd either 1. tell her it was ugly (it was beautiful!) or 2. spill to her fiance. Because I can be vengeful ;) I tried to keep my dress a secret, but she sat me down in front of a computer at her new year's party and said "ok. show me your dress." Ugh. I should've showed her a fake....luckily the picture online doesn't do it justice! Most of my girlfriends have seen a picture, but only my parents, sister, the friend who helped me pick it out and grandparents have seen it "live" and that's the way it's staying!
I don't mind telling people if they ask but that's because of my excitement of the dress and my lack of patience. I did ask my mom to please not show everyone however even if people do see or think they see what you describe it will look way different on you on the wedding day. It's the same way if someone describes a funny youtube video or a picture to you. You still will be totally suprised when you finally see it yourself. Just take a joking attitude and say "You'll just have to wait and see!..." :)
i understand how you feel...i really didnt feel like "sharing" my dress prior to my wedding, so i did what a lot of girls have suggested and gave very vague descriptions "well, it is white and flowy and i knew it was my dress instantly..." and then i would go right into talking about the dress shopping experience, which i found satisfied dress curiosity and made it less like i was avoiding their questions ;-)
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Does anyone else hate the question "So what does your wedding dress look like?"?? Maybe I'm being weird, but I don't like to describe my dress to people that are going to be at my wedding. I figure it should be somewhat of a suprise. I was asked this question at Thanksgiving dinner and felt really put on the spot. I didn't want to tell others about it, but I didn't want to make a big ordeal out of not wanting them to know. The only people that have seen my dress or I have wanted to talk about it to are my parents, close friends, and bridesmaids.
Is anyone else like this?