Post # 1
I recently got married and had both the ceremony and reception at a lovely and quaint wedding venue.
My bridesmaids were the groom’s two daughters from a previous marriage. They are aged 17 and 19 and I am 35-years-old. We decided it would be good thing and it’d make them feel included. They seemed happy enough to be bridesmaids.
Everything was going really well until the reception. Just before dinner, the bridesmaids decided to leave the bridal table and go and sit at the table where their cousins were. They remained there for the rest of the reception.
The groom was not that concerned, but I felt deserted and a bit hurt. It was a very uneven bridal table with two groomsmen, the groom, the bride and two empty seats.
What I’m trying to sort out in my mind is…..should I feel hurt by what my bridemaids did…or should I accept it and not worry too much about it.
I really need to get some fresh perspectives on this.
Post # 3
Well, they are 17 and 19. I’m not really very surprised they left to go hang out with their cousins. No, they shoudln’t have left the bridal table–that is very rude. But, they are young and probably quite clueless in regards to a wedding. In fact, they’re teenagers. I’d try to brush it off and chalk it up to the fact that they’re young and naive.
Post # 4
You can’t help how you feel, and if you’re upset, well, you’re upset. However, it’s what you choose to do with that anger that matters. I would try to forget it and move on. These were young girls and I think it’s understandable that they wanted to hang out with people they knew or were their age. I wouldn’t let this take away from the memory of such a special day!
Post # 5
They’re teenage girls…..I remember when I was that age I really only thought about myself. I’m sure they didn’t do it on purpose they were probably just bored and wanted to sit with kids thier own age. Don’t hold it against them.
Post # 6
Aww, don’t let that ruin the memory of your lovely day. I have to say what they did was fairly typical of what most people would have done at that age so never mind.
Post # 7
i also wouldn’t hold it against them—they probably have no idea it was even rude. i would have done the same thing at that age….the only reason i enjoyed weddings as a teenager was because i got to hangout with cousins my own age. even if i was in the wedding, i still would have done this.
Post # 8
I understand why you feel hurt, but they are teenage girls. I’m sure they didn’t know they were being a little tacky.
Post # 9
Don’t be offended. Sitting at the head table isn’t that fun – especially if everyone else (their cousins) gets to sit and hang out together. Especially since they are teenagers. Don’t turn it into a thing – I’m sure you had lots of other things going on that evening 🙂