Post # 1
Hi bees! I was wondering if anyone else has ever had regret about their designer ering? Let me explain (because I’m sure it sounds crazy).
Originally, FI and I were going to look for erings together. But a few months before we could do that, I accompanied a friend to a fine jewelry store to buy some diamond earrings and then I saw it. This ring just called to me. I asked to see it and when I tried it on, I knew. Even my friend who was there with me kept whispering to me, “this is the one.” It was love at first sight! I went home and told FI about it, and then never heard/spoke about it until he proposed about 5 months later with my exact ring! I was thrilled!!
Even though I love nice things, I’m a total bargain hunter. And with designer anything, you’re paying top dollar. Now I;m kind of wondering if I could’ve gotten a “better” ring at a fantastic price.
Did anyone else ever feel this way? I guess it’s similar to dress regret! Wondering what else is out there. I tell all my friends, GO TO THE DIAMOND DISTRICT AND DON;T BUY DESIGNER! I just feel like when you buy direct, you get the most for your money. Thoughts?
Post # 3
The ship has sailed!
Might you have been able to get “more” ring for your money? Sure. But you have the ring you have, and a ring you love. A ring that jumped out at you as the one, when you weren’t even ring shopping. It’s not all about getting max CCCs for the dollar.
I say, don’t let your frugality tarnish the joy you find in your ring.
Post # 4
@juicytray: My engagement ring from my ex was a “designer” ring and I felt like he paid entirely too much for it. Truth is, we were essentially paying for the brand name.
However, if you are that in love with your ring, I wouldn’t worry too much about it! It sounds like you found the perfect ring for you, so as long as it was in your FI’s budget, who cares what the money would have bought in a non-designer ring! You obviously love your ring, so another ring would have paled in comparison!
Enjoy it and stop worrying!
Post # 5
“Better” is subjective. Better how? Bigger? Higher graded clarity? The bottom line is you love your ring, don’t feel guilty about it and don’t think about “What ifs”. If you were in a position of still looking for your ring then yes I would suggest that you shop around. However you already have it, love and don’t look back.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Nope I was anti the price showed him other rings for less. He wasnt having it. Did I like the price? NO! Do I love my ring? YES! Was it my money to spend? NO! So I’m happy with the gesture he made in making my shiny dreams come true.
Post # 7
@kariebee43: you said: “Truth is, we were essentially paying for the brand name.”
Not always, aside from just the cache, many times there is a level of quality and service one gets with a brand name. Case in point on another thread recently a bee told how she saved so much money by having a Tiffany engagement ring replicated. She claimed she got the “exact same thing” (as an original Tiffany & co). Just a few days later saw a post from her lamenting about how her diamonds were coming out of her (Tiffany replica) engagement ring!! !!
I agree with the rest of what you wrote though.
Post # 8
I understand the “ship has sailed”, I just wanted to see if anyone else had similar thoughts/feelings. I constantly see posts about “dress regret”, so I was just curious 😉
Post # 9
@gemgirl6: That;s so true – about the quality – I didn’t even think of that! I just live so close to NYC, all I keep thinking is we should’ve went to the city for my ring because he could’ve gotten more for less. But you’re right, the quality probably wouldn;t have been there.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Regret is a moment lost of happiness and thankfulness. Your man was less worried about the money and more worried about your feelings. It was within his means, be thankful for his love and gesture.
Post # 11
I’m getting a designer ring. And the reason I’m doing that despite the fact that every jeweler I’ve talked to has offered to replicate it for me at a lower cost is because they are the experts. Can any jeweler make just about anything you want? Sure. But there is something to be said for making a name with high enough quality to merit the prices they charge. My ring is a solitaire and the setting is going to cost me just over 2k. Why? Because it is a tension setting made from a unique (and patented) alloy using a specific annealing process to create the correct amount of pressure (Which is important because while hardness increases a material also become more brittle. Which is why diamonds shatter not scratch. And while I don’t want a loose diamond, I really don’t want a shattered diamond.). To make the ring correctly you also need to factor in the expansion coefficient of the alloy to create a ring with exactly the correct size while factoring in the exact dimensions of the diamond. While most jewelers have gemologists and metallurgists on staff I feel better knowing that my designer has never lost a diamond due to structural issues with their rings and will outright refuse to set a diamond that has even a chance of being shattered due to natural inclusions.
Now I’m willing to bet these aren’t exactly issued that impact you particular ring. But that’s why I’m getting a designer ring.
Post # 12
But it was love at first sight. And as a PP mentioned, the ship has sailed! There’s no point in worrying about what might have been now. You love it. Just enjoy it!
My ring is a custom design, btw (not a knockoff of anything though). It is very high quality (e.g., I specified the exact percentages of each metal I wanted in the alloy, the prong heads are a unique shape that my FI drew for them), and I’m sure yours is as well. Custom can be gorgeous but so can designer and so can antique, etc. Similarly, round diamonds are beautiful but so are cushion cut, and so are sapphires for that matter! There is more than one “right answer” when choosing an engagement ring. But each couple chooses their “right answer.” Our rings are both different but both perfect for their wearers, n’est ce pas? 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion
Nope! I have a Tacori setting and after looking around, I knew nothing else would do. It was more than a comparable ring without the “name-brand”, but I find the quality and detail of Tacori to be well worth it. Rock your ring, girl!
Post # 14
There is absolutely no point in regretting now. it won’t change a thing and won’t add a day to your years. it’s better than him not listening and getting you something you dislike.
Post # 15
Design factor may not have worth in terms of metal weight or diamond C’s but it does have value, particularly sentimental value! The most valuable value of all.
Post # 16
Do not feel bad. This is your ring forever. Could you have gotten more for your money elsewhere? Absolutely. But you may not have been as happy. Also, a lot of people go the custom route to save money and have a designer ring they love replicated and a lot of times it does not come out well if its a complicated design.