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posted 2 years ago in Full Figured

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Honey bee

bestbuddies June 6, 2010 Chicago, Illinois

Ok my fellow beautiful full figured brides..i am desperate for your help. I think I have posted this issue a couple of times under accessories but I am just not pleased iwth my results (great suggestions but not enough detail :D). So i was hoping posting it here would help. I am a street size 16-18 and have a strapless dress. I think i look great in my dress but it just is not me to wear strapless adn i want to look like myself and feel like myself on my wedding day. So i am looking for some sleeve options. I think i want a bolero because i can remove it if i get hot or if i dont like it I dont have to wear it (it will not be a permanent part of my dress). Attached is a pic of me in my dress (sorry for the poor quality). but i need specific suggestions.

What about caped sleeves. Will this make my arms look fat?

would 3/4 sleeves be silly for a June wedding (inside)?

what about an elbow sleeve option?

suggestions on where I can purchase a flattering bolero? oneline or stores (i prefer stores)-i went to my bridal boutique and i hate theirs!

material? lace? chiffon? -my dress is satin on top with a chiffon overlay starting at the waist.

Thanks ladies :D

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2 years ago

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Honey bee

bestbuddies June 6, 2010 Chicago, Illinois

Thanks to a nice person on wedding be PMing me here are some options i found that i like: ideas? which do you think would look best?

http://cgi.ebay.ca/Translucent-Lace-3-4-Sleeve-Bridal-Bolero-Jacket-Custom_W0QQitemZ220567295826QQcmdZViewItemQQptZLH_DefaultDomain_0?hash=item335ad5d752#ht_4320wt_1165

http://cgi.ebay.ca/NEW-WHITE-or-IVORY-Stretchy-lace-bolero-shrug-wrap_W0QQitemZ220566087012QQcmdZViewItemQQptZLH_DefaultDomain_2?hash=item335ac36564#ht_1204wt_1165

http://cgi.ebay.ca/NEW-Wedding-lace-bolero-bridal-jacket-3-4-sleeves_W0QQitemZ220568476463QQcmdZViewItemQQptZLH_DefaultDomain_2?hash=item335ae7db2f#ht_1260wt_1165

http://cgi.ebay.ca/NEW-Stretchy-lace-3-4-sleeve-bolero-shrug-wrap-jacket_W0QQitemZ320496622503QQcmdZViewItemQQptZLH_DefaultDomain_2?hash=item4a9f165ba7#ht_1177wt_1165

http://cgi.ebay.ca/3-4-sleeve-bridal-lace-bolero-jacket-shrug-wrap-coat_W0QQitemZ320498813456QQcmdZViewItemQQptZLH_DefaultDomain_2?hash=item4a9f37ca10#ht_1204wt_1165

http://cgi.ebay.ca/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=170457958960&_trksid=p2759.l1259#ht_3635wt_1165

2 years ago

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Newbee

DianaM July 5, 2009 Orange County California

Im not sure if you feel comfortable ordering online but this website has some cute boleros. http://www.plussizebridal.com/SearchResults.asp?category=SB

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2 years ago

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Blushing bee

I blew the budget 7-19-10

Have you looked on etsy?

Love Rohm's shop - I drool over this one.....

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2 years ago

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amaroo24 June 12, 2010 Ithaca, NY

I'm a street size 16-18 as well. First let me say your dress is beautiful!! I like the general style but am not convinced that the lace would go well with your dress. What about something like a friend of mine wore in her wedding? You could find a cashmere type or even the satin type of your skirt or bodice. You may be able to find a local seamstress who would work customizing one to your shape.

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2 years ago

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Honey bee

bestbuddies June 6, 2010 Chicago, Illinois

I blew the budget-i have tried etsy but i dont remember seeing this one. what is its name?

2 years ago

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Honey bee

bestbuddies June 6, 2010 Chicago, Illinois

amaroo-i thought the same thing about the lace. i was originally looking for a chiffon one but they are all so plain and none flattering. i like your friends, where did she get it?

my friend at work is a seamstress (kind of) and she said she would do it. i dont know though...

2 years ago

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lilyfaith June 23, 2012 Lakeview, Chicago

I'm awful because I didn't look through the links posted previously, but just throwing some different styles that I think could be flattering out there. Oh, and by the way - I'm a size 2/4 and my arms look big when I wear cap sleeves! I have gross arms anyway, but it's really not linked to dress size!

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=42488456

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=38918295

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=42365383

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=35520176

This one is my favorite! It says cap sleeves, but they don't really look like them to me. I think it's gorgeous!

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=41775513

Hope that helps, good luck!

2 years ago

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amaroo24 June 12, 2010 Ithaca, NY

My friend got hers at the local bridal shop. I've also seen this style in dress clothes at local department stores as well. I really like 3/4 sleeves rather than long sleeves. In regards to plain vs lace, I've found many times plane is elegant. Have you tried your local fabric shop for patterns and/or material? They will may times have entire catalogs of wedding patterns. Then you could have your friend make it and not worry about the style.

2 years ago

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Blushing bee

I blew the budget 7-19-10

@daniellealys - Rohm. Love love love her shop

here's the link

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=42476593&ref=sr_list_16&&ga_search_query=bridal+bolero&ga_search_type=category&category=weddings.accessories&ga_page=&includes[]=tags&includes[]=title

2 years ago

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Busy bee

mermaideve

You could also check DB or local department stores. I was at Macy's yesterday getting a dress for our VERY possible civil ceremony, which may happen shortly, and saw a few different ones on clearance, in the plus size area. You may be able to get away with a "regular" sized bolero jacket (I love boleros, got a great one for $3 at a thrift store that was XL although I wear 20-22 and it fit!) I understand about the strapless thing, it isn't me either and I would feel too exposed.

2 years ago

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Honey bee

bestbuddies June 6, 2010 Chicago, Illinois

thanks ladies!

I am going to check macys and dillards today. if i dont find what i am looking for I think i will have my friend who is a steamstress make my bolero for me for the cost of materials only (and a surprise gift of course)

so i think it will work out i just need to be patient :D

2 years ago

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acampeau 10/16/09 Phoenix, AZ

Sorry I just saw your post--

I stock tons of different bolero styles for my plus sized brides, but I had to be creative in where they came from. Most wedding dress manufacturers make boleros to match their dresses. So try searching online (or go into your local retailer--they should have a book or a pricelist to give you item #s). My other trick was to actually buy bridesmaids jackets. They had more options :) So check out a bridemaids retailer and see what options they carry (Again, ask for a book because they can order it even if it's not in their usual stock).

Ann

Strut Bridal Salon

2 years ago

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ToasterCat October 9, 2011 Milwaukee, Wisconsin

@Acampeau - we really don't appreciate advertising on the boards...

2 years ago

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acampeau 10/16/09 Phoenix, AZ

@toastercat

I'm pretty sure my post suggested she visit local retailers or go online--not a word about calling me. I was just giving her an "insider tip".

2 years ago

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Busy bee

Mattel November 6, 2010 WNY

@acampeau - great suggestion, I second this!!! my BFF got married in December of last year and is a larger girl - she ordered 2 boleros for her wedding - one with short sleeves for the indoor reception and one with long sleeves for the outdoor ceremony. There were a lot mor options (and they were cheaper!!) and they had a color that matched her dress that she ordered.

2 years ago