(Closed) desperate need of opinions

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Aww man, that’s tough! But I definetly don’t like the idea of her wearing black pants. Ughh, I’m sorry, can’t think of any advice!

Post # 4
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5668 posts
Bee Keeper

If she wants to wear pants then I wouldn’t worry about her feeling on calling attention to herself. I don’t think it would look tacky.

Post # 5
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1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

One of my friends is a lesbian and has never worn a dress, when I got engaged I told her I wanted her in my wedding and if she felt comfortable wearing a dress…if not then I’d be more then happy to have her in dress pants etc. Basically I don’t think it would look tacky. Is she against wearing a skirt maybe?

Post # 6
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If the other four aren’t wearing the exact same dress, I think it will look fine, and regardless, it wouldn’t be tacky — it would look like you respected your friend.

Post # 7
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Could she wear a lighter color pant? Tan/beige, maybe even ivory…I know only the bride is supposed to be in white/ivory but it will go better with the lavendar and blend in more.

Post # 10
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563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Davids has those flowy pany suits in colors. Maybe they have lavendar?

Post # 11
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334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Is it a leg issue and maybe she would be more comfortable in a long versus knee-length dress, or is it an issue of feeling like dresses absolutely don’t fit with her identity? I have a friend who is a lesbian and identifies as “gender queer” and she said for her friend’s wedding instead of being forced to wear a dress she really wished she could have worn a more feminine version of what the groomsmen wore. She would have looked super cute in pants and a vest. Would this be an option for your bridesmaid?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@3Polkadots:  My friend told me that she would wear a dress a for me. I asked her if she was sure and she said it was time to give the whole dress and heels thing another try.

Post # 13
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658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@3Polkadots:  If her fear of wearing dresses is that she will stick out, pants is not the way to go. maybe google some pics of girls that did wear pants when all the others wore dresses and she will see how much she sticks out. 

Or what about something like this. It will look like a dress, but would be pants.

 

Post # 15
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1308 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it is a smart decision to let her wear pants, especially because she is not typically a feminine person. If she was and was just being a brat about the wedding then I would say to let her go, but she seems really justified in her feeling uncomfortable in a dress.

hope you find something you will all like (like the pants and vest…maybe grey pants and vest with a lavender buttondown)

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