Post # 1
My engagement party is tonight!! Ahhh!!! I’m thrilled because I feel like because I’m going away to Hawaii next year and sort of elope, I feel liek not that much wedding stuff has happened. (We booked our photographer, thats it.) I finally feel liek this is an exciting moment that just about me and my fiance and everyone celebrating with us, right?
NOPE. My very good friend from college lives far away (and is so absorbed in her own wedding, not available for sympathy either…see: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-the-bride-asking-for-too-much-how-to-be-a-graceful-bm) My best friend from high school just broke up with her boyfriend of a year and is giving me a “I’ll go but i wont be any fun so not sure why I’m even going” answer. My other friend, who I’ve supported throughout her breakup with her fiance 6 months ago, is feeling sick and wont stay for long.
I’m still happy and I’m still going to have a good time…but sort of disappointed my bests arent going to be there for me. these are the girls that would be bridesmaids….you dont have to come to a wedding, you dont have to throw me a shower or a bachelorette party….but FREAKING COME TO MY ENGAGEMENT PARTY AT THE VERY LEAST!!!
I even explicitly said I dont want gifts. Its literally a get together to celebrate and have fun with our friends. so disappointed. 🙁
Post # 3
@1stRosie: I’m sorry you’re friends aren’t stepping up for you 🙁 Try to focus on those who are there for you and your Fiance and have a good time anyway. Good luck!
Post # 4
I know how incredibly difficult it is to take this advice: but enjoy the company that comes and is there for you. You will be so wrapped up in having an amazing time that you’ll only notice a tiny, tiny bit that they couldn’t make it. Enjoy your time with Fiance + friends and family! 🙂
Post # 5
@1stRosie: I’m sorry to hear that! I know how it feels when it seems like everybody is too busy for something very important to you. Maybe you should call your friends and tell them how you feel. If they’re not there for you after that then at least you know that you tried how communicate your feelings.
Even so, Miss Otter sirght. You’ll be too busy having a good time with all of tpeople me who DID come to celebrate that you’ll hardly notice.
Good luck at your engagement party, I’m sure it’ll be awesome.
Also, not to nit pick (I’m a teacher and I couldn’t help myself) but it’s ‘like’ not ‘liek’.
Post # 6
I understand the urge to whine (it is really disappointing when people aren’t there for you), but I think the best thing you can do is enjoy the people who are going to be there for you. Be grateful to them, and bask in the moment.
But also be there for your friends who can’t be there for you right now – sounds like at least two of them are going through a crappy time, and need you as a friend right now. You’re happy, so bask in it, and then attempt to share the generosity you receive from others with your friends who are going through a rough time. The other bride who is too absorbed in her own wedding to be there for you? Don’t become her! Reach out to your friends who are going through breakups and let it be about them for a while. They need you, and you’ll feel better about enjoying yourself knowing that they know they haven’t lost you to the wedding monster 🙂
And who knows, they may be so touched by your attention, or bolstered by your efforts, that they make it to your party in the end. I wouldn’t do it for that reason, but sometimes good things do come back around to you.