Post # 1
We are having a dessert bar, it will have one small cake for us and then lots of cake pops, cup cakes, hand pies, whoopie pies, cookies, etc for the guests. I am worried that the guests will just dig into the dessert bar before we cut the cake (since the dinner is buffet, I have a feeling they are just going to mosey on over and destroy it) SO I wanted to put a cute little nicely said sign that says pretty much back off until I have cut my cake 🙂 but of couse, in a much nicer way..
All I can think of is “Please wait until the new Mr & Mrs have cut the wedding cake to enjoy some desserts!”
But I think that even said that way it seems a little rude..
Ideas?! Help?! Wedding is in 2 weeks!
Post # 3
we aren’t putting our dessert bar out UNTIL the cake cutting.
Post # 4
Just out of Curiosity, what is the problem with them going to the dessert bar prior to your cake cutting? do you feel it all has to coincide? To me, let them eat it. Your cake cutting seems like a separate event from the guests enjoying the dessert bar.
Post # 4
My SIL had a buffet dinner and the dessert was there the whole time. Her MC announced dinner but asked guests not to touch the dessert yet. Nobody touched it until they were told to. I’m sure a sign would do fine too.
Post # 5
you could always cut the cake before dinner
Post # 6
We’re doing the same thing as Ms. Meowerson. It makes the most sense for the reason you’re concerned about and also just so that desserts (like cheesecake) aren’t sitting out all night. At the very least, you could just not put out plates & serving utensils until it is time for them to serve themselves, it should be enough of a hint.
Post # 7
@AirForceWife78: more for the fact that we paid so much money and I want to be able to take in the whole thing & decor around it before it gets picked apart, I want to be the one to pick it apart first. Does this make me bratty? Am I trying to micromanage this more so than I should?
Post # 8
I attended a wedding where the cupcakes were out and everyone was all into them before the cake cutting. It didn’t really matter–the cake cutting is an event for the bride and groom. It’s not ruined if you all don’t eat dessert at the same time. The bride didn’t care.
Post # 9
Eh, I feel like yes, you are paying for it but you’re paying for it so your guests can enjoy it – the reception is a gigantic thank you for the guests and that dessert bar is for them. If you two REALLY want to see everything before anyone else, maybe you can have cocktail hour in a separate location and do a “preview” before people are let in for dinner?
Post # 10
I like the idea of doing the cake cutting early. Then you can get a picture of the whole arrangement while you cut, and people can visit the dessert bar when they’re done eating so no pressure time-wise.
Post # 11
Have you considered having a separate cake table for the cake you want to cut? That way the dessert table can be separate so people can help themselves whenever the want to.
Post # 12
Whatever you do, definitely do something to tell your guests if you don’t want them to dig in! My cousin had a cream puff cake as her wedding cake, and none of the guests knew it was “The Cake,” so they went up and started picking pieces of cream puff off of it before the bride/groom had any! All it would have taken was a sign saying “please wait to enjoy wedding cake until the bride and groom have gotten their bites!”
Post # 13
I don’t understand why this is an issue. Guests are generally not savage beasts who wreak havoc like that. It is understood by nearly everyone that you don’t touch the desserts until the couple cuts the cake, no matter what the dessert options are. No need to make any announcements or signs because it will make you look like a control freak.
Post # 14
Generally I agree that guests are not savage beasts. However, being on the Bee has made me think otherwise, haha. I remember reading a post about candy buffets and how guest at this one wedding totally destroyed it before the bride and groom entered the reception. I remember reading about how guests were taking 4 and 5 bags of candy, and some guests didn’t get any.
Post # 15
just from a guests perspective…. NOTHING is going to keep me away from a dessert buffet….no sign, no barrier…. end of story! haha. if it’s there in my sight… it’s game on.
but that’s me
i personally wouldn’t care if my guests got into the dessert “before they should”… i wouldn’t blame them at all.