Destination – 4-5 hour driving distance % expected to attend?

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We got married in the town where we lived, where my immediate family lives. However, it was a destination wedding for all of my ILs as well as a good majority of the rest of our guest list. 

We invited 350, with a HUGE majority of that being FI’s family that lives 6 hours away. I would not have invited them all, but my MIL insisted they must all be invited. We ended up with about 200 final people. The majority of his family (outside of immediate family and close relatives) did not attend. That being said, most of his friends (who are anywhere from 6-12 hours away) attended. We even had one set up friends fly across the country.

Generally speaking those who really want to be there and can financially afford it will be there. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

EVERYONE, including us, had to drive at least 5 hours to our DW.  Most spent 2 nights away from home.

72 were invited, and this includes everyone’s kids.  51 said yes (3 of those were no-shows).  Most of the parents attending left their kids at home, so we ended up with just 5 little ones.
 
Overall, that’s a 71% “yes” rate, which was very close to our original estimate of 75%.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not sure if this is helpful but I’m from the SF Bay (Oakland, baby!).

I would consider a wedding in Lake Tahoe a mini destination wedding.  For me, anytime I have to drive 4-5 hours, I’m staying 1-2 nights and depending on the season it would be something I would have to plan in advance. 

It’s difficult to know who will be there and who can’t make it. It would probably depend on how many have children (if children are not invited, especially), how many are elderly and would have to go drive in alone, etc. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@kristinh525:  We actually live in a destination area, so it is a little bit of an expensive place to be. We did get married in the off season so that helped quite a bit. I forgot to mention, we had no kids at our wedding. I would venture to say that a good majority of them didn’t come because they did have little kids. We were going to actually pay for a sitter/food for all the kids but I think that we got married during a month where kids were in school played a huge factor in that. We only had one family who came w/ their kids (but used our refferal for a sitter) and they weren’t concerned about their kids missing school. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@kristinh525:  I don’t know. Some people say 75% come, some say less and some say more. I’m still a year out but now that word is spreading, a LOT of people I thought wouldn’t fly out are indeed, planning to fly out. Yikes!

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