Destination bach – should guests buy the bride a small gift?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Should guests coming on my destination bach trip bring me a small fun gift to wear at party?
    Yes - the cost is around $10-30 so it's low, it would be fun, and they are getting a huge goodie bag : (1 votes)
    3 %
    No - b/c they are already spending so much coming on the trip : (31 votes)
    97 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I would not ask them to do that. If anything the host would have these kinds of attire decorations for you. 

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @sunrisepassion:  It’s always rude to ask someone to bring a gift.  If the girls want to get you something on their own that’s fine, but if they’re prompted I think it’s rude.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @sunrisepassion:  I would not ask people to do that for any bach party, especially a destination one. To me that is for the bridesmaids to organise if they want you to wear that stuff.

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @sunrisepassion:  No…in my circle you don’t bring gifts to bachelorette’s to begin with.  If it’s a destination bachelorette I would really want to discourage it.

    In my opinion, if the bridesmaids think you should have things to wear for the bachelorette party, they should pitch in and provide it themselves. 

     

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    You should probably stay out of it since you’re the bride and not organizing it. $10-30 isn’t much and I’d guess that decision can be managed by your bridesmaids and the ladies invited. It would be rude if you the bride were asking for it. 

    I’ve been to destination bachelorettes where guests were asked to bring a small present (could be homemade or inexpensive) for one activity for the bride while the planners paid for the bride’s accessories. I’ve been to some where guests split the costs of the bride attending or where the bridesmaids split the costs. Either way the under $30 contribution for something for the bride wasn’t begrudged by the guests. The only thing guests resented and couldn’t afford  was when the overall costs were very high unnecesarily and guests felt the planners made no efforts to keep the costs (outside of the small present) in check Or didn’t give a heads up of the costs in advance. 

    Post # 8
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I feel that the bachelorette is one of the few, if not the only, non gift giving event associated with weddings.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @sunrisepassion:  I went to a destination Bach last summer and they asked us to bring a piece of lingerie for the bride. I thought this was ridiculous and completely unnecessary. I would not ask for people to bring gifts. They will most likely be splitting the cost for your meals and drinks too. 

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