(Closed) Destination Bachelorette – a little perspective, please

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

It depends on what kind of bachelorette party you want.  If you want all your friends there this kind of party will only allow for friends that are financially able to go.  Otherwise I think it can really fun.  It depends on who you want there with you and whether or not they can make it.  If this is the route you are interested in, figure out who you would want there and reach out to them to see if it’s a possibility.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think there are a wide variety of destination bachelorette parties.  There are the pricey ones like flying to Vegas, but there are also other alternatives that are much less expensive. 

For my sisters wedding, we rented a house in Lake Geneva WI (we’re from Chicago).  It was only a 90 minute drive for everyone and we were able to bring our own food & drinks to have a house party and also got to enjoy the shopping and other activities of this great little resort lake town during the day.  It ended up being only about $100 a person, (plus their gas money to drive there) which is more inexpensive than a night on the town in Chicago.  We had an absolute blast and it ended up being a fun weekend away for the girls.  I’m getting married in June 2010, and I asked my sister who is my MOH to do the same thing for me. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I don’t know what everyone thinks of them, but I don’t like them. I think we already ask a lot (financially, emotionally, time-wise) from our bridesmaids, and I’d say this is where it crosses the line. Of course, I say that as someone who seems to only be bridesmaid for girls whose other bridesmaids I don’t usually know very well or at all, and as someone who has been in a pretty tight financial situation during most of those times.

But I see how that’s not true (that it’s too much to ask) in every situation. If all of the bridesmaids are friends with each other, too (and not just the bride), then I can imagine it would be a fun thing to do for a weekend. But sometimes, right before a wedding where I’m pretty much on call all the time, I kind of just want to be at home on the weekend.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The only thing I have been dead set on is having my BP in Myrtle Beach.  It’s about 8 hours from here, and it’s where pretty much everyone from this area goes for a vaca every year.  Crocodile Rocks – anyone ever been?  It is my absolute most fave place ever!!!!!  The very first time I went there, there was a bachelorette party there, and they just made it SO much fun for them!  I knew then that’s where mine would be one day!  This will be much easier on all the girls who want to go than having to fly out to Vegas or something like that.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think they’re so awesome if everyone you care about is able to come.  But that’s usually not likely.  And the cost is a bit much right before a wedding when things are tight.  I thought about doing this, not gonna happen.  I’d rather have everyone with me that just a handful.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i think they’re really fun and im having one but im paying for everything basically…flights to vegas, hotel for the weekend, stuff like that

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

i haven’t been invited to one that far. we had a semi-destination bach party at lake tahoe but for us, it’s only a 4 hour drive, give or take. we all shared a room [tons of air mattresses!] so the cost per person, not including spending money and gas for the drivers [we carpooled] was about $60. super cheap but definitey doable. i don’t think i would have been able to afford a flight, hotel, spending money on top of all the money i had committed being a bridesmaid.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I was invited to one in Vegas and I really wanted to go, but I wasn’t able to afford going to vegas AND go to the wedding (in a dif city) and buy a bridesmaids dress AND buy a gift etc…

I really like the idea of it, but it seems like a sleepover could be just as fun!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am having a 3 day cruise for my party.  The girls got together and they decided it, otherwise I would have never asked them to spend that kind of money but everyone is excited.  Also, the costs are cut for my bridesmaids big time because they only thing they have to pay for is their shoes. I am getting everything else and my big sis is footing the bill for my shower so all in all it’s not too much to ask (I hope).  I guess it really depends on your friend’s situation and how much they will be put out for money at the time.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I live near Appleton/Oshkosh, WI and I have been to the Dells for a bach party, and I want to do an overnighter to Door County, WI for wine tasting and dancing and shopping.

I think they are fun for a smaller group to just hang out and have a really good time.  It breaks things up from the ordinary!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m having a destination bachelorette, at least for my BMs. I live in Nashville and my BMS live in Asheville/Raleigh/Pittsburg/DC so people were ultimately going to travel. The plus of having it here in Nashville is that they can experience the city before the wedding weekend, and they’ll have a free place to stay (my house). We thought about some other locations (New Orleans), but ultimately decided on Nashville because it’s a) cheap, b) fun, c) at least one of us knows the city well, d) free lodging. So is a bachelorette really considered destination if you all don’t live in the same place to begin with?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think they’re fine – especially if you’re a low key bride. If that’s the one thing that you want from your BMs, and they can do it, why not?  I love to travel though, so I am biased.  It’s a fun way to have a new experience with your close friends, girls only!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it depends on how much it will cost your friends to attend… and what their means are.  One of my friends is doing a destination bachelorette in Miami this spring.  I am REALLY sad that I probably won’t be able to make it, but the cost, including airfare for me will be somewhere between $500 and $1000.  Yikes!  I think there are ways to make it cheaper though… especially if the destination doesn’t involve a several hundred dollar flight.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I think it depends on your own situation.  For my wedding, I had only a MOH, who is also my best friend.  She took me to Cabo San Lucas for a one week AI vacation.  Granted we went during the September low season, it still was costly.  I’m thinking about $1200 total for the both of us.  In return, the only expense she had was her shoes.  I paid for the dress, hair, makeup, etc.  Plus my family had my bridal shower for me since I am the only girl. 

We had a great time!  It’s one of those memories that will last a lifetime 🙂

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