Post # 1
I’m having a long weekend bachelorette party in Vegas this summer (we are driving) and wanted to know who pays for my portion of the costs (hotel, food, etc.)? Are my BMs supposed to pay for everything or just pitch in for my portion? When we agreed on Vegas it was a mutual decision. I know the BMs are suppose to plan and pay for the bachelorette party but when it’s a long weekend party, who is responsible for paying for the bride? I plan on bringing money anyway but wanted to get opinions. What is the proper etiquette? Is there one?
Post # 3
In my personal experience, you would pay for your portion of the trip and they will buy you drinks when you go out.
Post # 4
I’m doing a destination one as well and I plan on paying my own portion. I feel like it’s not fair to expect my bridesmaid’s to front the bill just because I’m getting married. They have enough expenses with everything else to do with the wedding! I just want to have a good time.
Post # 5
@MrsPinkPeony: That sounds right to me, too. Unless your BMs are rolling in the money, I would buy my own plane ticket and chip in for the hotel and any shows or whatever you ladies do :).
They might offer to buy you dinner or something, too, along with some drinks.
Post # 6
I think technically if something is being thrown in your honor, they’re supposed to pay. I fully expect to cover the costs of my friends’ bachelorettes, and for them to cover mine. Plus, they knew what they agreed to when you all chose Vegas. Being a long weekend that might change things a little bit- I still think they should cover any of the “big” costs – driving/hotel costs. I’m assuming they’re planning one “big” night, with dinner and a bar, so let them do that, but beyond that I’d probably start throwing in for my own lunch/gambling/other meals or drinks. Can you talk to them about this at all? I know that’s an awkward topic but maybe you can find some way to slyly bring it up lol
Post # 7
In my experience the bride will pay for her travel and lodging for destination bachelorette parties and the bridesmaids will pay for her for dinner, drinks and entertainment.
Post # 8
If it was a mutual decision together, you should pay your piece. Especially in this economy, I would not expect anyone to pay for something like that for me considering all the other costs a BM endures. Have fun!
Post # 9
In my group of friends the bride pays for her travel (flights) and sometimes accomodation based on how big the group is, but everything else is covered and divided up between the participants.