(Closed) Destination Bachelorette Party – Who Pays?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

In my personal experience, you would pay for your portion of the trip and they will buy you drinks when you go out.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m doing a destination one as well and I plan on paying my own portion.  I feel like it’s not fair to expect my bridesmaid’s to front the bill just because I’m getting married.  They have enough expenses with everything else to do with the wedding!  I just want to have a good time.  

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsPinkPeony: That sounds right to me, too. Unless your BMs are rolling in the money, I would buy my own plane ticket and chip in for the hotel and any shows or whatever you ladies do :). 

They might offer to buy you dinner or something, too, along with some drinks.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think technically if something is being thrown in your honor, they’re supposed to pay. I fully expect to cover the costs of my friends’ bachelorettes, and for them to cover mine. Plus, they knew what they agreed to when you all chose Vegas. Being a long weekend that might change things a little bit- I still think they should cover any of the “big” costs – driving/hotel costs. I’m assuming they’re planning one “big”  night, with dinner and a bar, so let them do that, but beyond that I’d probably start throwing in for my own lunch/gambling/other meals or drinks. Can you talk to them about this at all? I know that’s an awkward topic but maybe you can find some way to slyly bring it up lol

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

In my experience the bride will pay for her travel and lodging for destination bachelorette parties and the bridesmaids will pay for her for dinner, drinks and entertainment.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If it was a mutual decision together, you should pay your piece.  Especially in this economy, I would not expect anyone to pay for something like that for me considering all the other costs a BM endures.  Have fun!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

In my group of friends the bride pays for her travel (flights) and sometimes accomodation based on how big the group is, but everything else is covered and divided up between the participants. 

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