Destination Bachelorette Party

posted 1 week ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I attended a bachelorette weekend for my friend, she paid for the condo. The destination was only 2 hours away so no money spent on transportation…we ate out nice though and did a snorkel trip and I would say I spent around $100 or so…I think destination bachelorettes are fine as long as they are for a weekend, don’t require BMs to take days off or to spend lots of money, and that it’s not too far away..but I guess what matters is that everyone is in agreement and everyone actually wants to go. I would say anything more than $200, as a BM I would say I couldn’t swing it. As a bride I would have a hard time being ok with my BMs spending so much money on a trip for me, unless it’s really just a cheap trip.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

I think it depends on the individual person. I flew cross country for a bachelorette party. I took two days off from work, we stayed at her parents’ house, and probably ate out 6/7 times over the course of the weekend because her parents  made a couple of breakfasts and dinners. I probably spent about $600 or so on the trip. It was an awesome weekend and I saved up vacation days/money for it, so it worked out well for me. I realize this is a unique situation, so you’d probably be best off asking you own bridesmaids what they’re comfortable spending.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My bridesmaids are throwing me a “surprise” bachelorette party. It’ll be about 4 days, I need a passport, and they’ve given me a breakdown of what clothing I’ll need for themed events. I’m not paying for anything (flight/hotel or condo) so I’m assuming it’s pretty expensive. I think the biggest thing is I didn’t ask for this, I suggested something smaller, but they all wanted to do this for me. That makes me feel less guility.

 

As a MOH for my current MOH I spent probably close to $2000, if not more, for a weekend in Vegas.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Bri2 :  I spent about $200 for four days in Los Angeles for everything besides the flight, maybe a little bit more, so I’d definitely be comfortable spending that amount again for the type of trip you described — depending on how many people are going, you might end up spending a little less if you’re smart about how you buy food/alcohol for the accomodations. But, that was my own personal situation, and $200 for me might not be reasonable for others — could it be that these bridesmaids aren’t great with their money and weren’t able to save up enough, the dresses were more expensive than they expected, or the trip itself is more expensive than they expected?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Bri2 :  I think it depends on where each BM is in their life. I was a BM several years ago and we went to Vegas for 3 nights and had an awesome time. 

At this point of my life I wouldn’t want to spend a night away from home for a bachelorette party. I have reached the point in my life where I want to spend my free time leisurely, not with a bridal party.  I am 39 if that makes a difference, lol. 

I think if there is a destination bachelorette party, it should not be required and no one should get upset if people can’t make it.

However, I don’t think people should wait until the last minute to back out. 

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

southernbride16 :  I agree. Before, I was ok with a trip but after I got married, I wouldn’t want to use a lot of money & vacation time to take a trip with someone besides my husband. So it does depend on each person and where they are in their life and how they are financially too.

Bri2 :  Did they not know how much it would be ahead of time? Things do happen and everyone might have been ok with it at first, but if the dress (?) was more than they expected or if they have needed to pitch in for anything else, all of it plus the trip might seem a little overwhelming…Flights, food, activities, might not sound like much but it adds up and I wouldn’t fault anyone for not being able to go.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I will never understand these super expensive lavish bachelorette parties like isn’t it just throwing away MORE money!? 

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I probably wouldn’t be okay with paying more than $300 for a three day bachelorette trip. Maybe $500 if I was good friends with the bride AND with the people going. If people can’t afford it, just count them out and don’t badger them about what the bee says is a good budget. My budget wouldn’t work for others and I’m sure plenty of others are willing to pay way more.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

 Bri2 :  What you need to consider reasonable is whatever they’re willing to pay, and if they haven’t already told you that amount, then they need to so you can plan the trip. What’s reasonable for strangers on the internet isn’t necessarily reasonable for the people you’re dealing with, so you need to talk to all of them to finalize this. You can’t really say to them, “The bride and these other people I talked to and I all think $300 for the weekend is reasonable, so you have to pay $300 for this trip,” regardless of timeframe; if they all agreed to that amount earlier and are having to adjust for unexpected circumstances, there needs to be open communication and accomodation for that too if you want to make sure everyone can go on the trip.

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