Post # 1
My first impulse upon getting engaged in the bahamas was MARRY in the bahamas. Such a beautiful Island.
However after doing some thinking I feel as though I need to have a wedding. I feel like I will miss a huge event in my life if I do a small destination wedding.
I am not a huge fan of having people watch my emotions in public so I may do a small ontario creremony followed by a huge fun PARTY with all our friends and family. I want to do this in the country setting- country chic theme.
I was just wondering if anybody out there has gone through this debate and if so…any advice? Will I be missing out on a amazing day by not doing a wedding and just having a small island nuptual?
Post # 3
I think you will get many different answers here, and the bottom line is that you have to choose a path that’s right for you and your FI.
We had the small DW, and would not have had it any other way. I wanted to relax, enjoy the time spent with my few guests, have something very intimate in a fantastic decor, and not have to worry about planning. This was the right formula for us and we have never, ever regretted not having the party – we didn’t even have a reception after coming back.
Talk to you FI, see what’s right for you.
Post # 4
You could do the small intimate ceremony in the Bahamas then do the country chic party when you get back with all of your friends. That’d be one way to compromise between the two.
Post # 5
If you feel the need to have a wedding, as in a more traditional one, then that’s your answer. It’s all about what you and your FI want. Just go with your gut.
We’re having a destination wedding in Mexico and are completely happy with our decision. I never imagined myself having a big traditional wedding. It’s just not who I am. I’m a very private person and only want people who are very close to me to be there.
One other factor in our decision was that our families live in different parts of the country. It didn’t seem fair to make only one side travel. We wouldn’t have opted for a DW if travel was the only factor. It just helped us make up our mind.
Also, like one of the previous posters, I liked that there wasn’t as much planning involved in a DW resort wedding. I don’t care about all the little things, I just want to get married.
Post # 6
I’ll share the other side. I would have been so unhappy with a DW. My wedding is basically the most important event in my life to date (I know there will be others but it is currently the top) and I can’t imagine not having shared that with my family and friends. DH and I both value family very highly and his family is medium sized while mine is quite large. We would have had to exclude a ton of these people for a DW and that would be before even counting any friends into the guest list.
Having the ability to share the day with these people was more important to us than the beautiful local that a destination wedding provides. And we also weren’t looking for small and initmate (not that our ceremony wasn’t intimate – there were just more people viewing it).
Ultimately you and your FI just need to decide what you priorities for the type of event are and that will point you in one direction or the other.