Post # 1
I have been looking for ideas on what wording to use in my invitations for my destination wedding. We are getting married in Jamaica and we know that most people can’t come. I wanted to say something like “we understand if you can’t come and don’t want you to feel pressured to come but wanted you to know you were still thought of” but in a more formal way on the invite wording. A nicer way to say this that isn’t a run-on garbled sentence? ha.
Or maybe better to include a small note with the invite?
Post # 3
I think I’d just send invites without apologizing for the location. Are you planning to do an at home reception after you get back to celebrate with the people that couldn’t travel?
Post # 4
Are you having a small wedding? We just told those in person we understand. We didn’t feel the need to add anything. Plus we didn’t have the space lol.
Post # 5
I would still just do a regular invite. I’m sure if someone is close enough to you to invite them to a destination wedding, they’re someone that you speak with semi-frequently, or wouldn’t be strange if you did call them, and reassure them verbally.
Really, any invitation the “no pressure” should be inferred. I really don’t see a reason to make a point of writing it on the invite, and if anything it may have the opposite effect of making people feel unwanted.
Post # 6
Don’t send a note, just send the invite, people know the deal….you don’t need to spell it out.
We sent invites out to 20 additional people for our DW wedding out of courtesy, knowing they wouldn’t come but still wanted to just include them, and also announce our wedding to them.
Post # 7
We sent out the invites as normal but on our wedding website where it had the travel details/price etc we put a little note saying we understand this is expensive and you may not be able to gt tim eoff work etc. so dont feel bad or guity if you cant attend.
ETA*** We also sent out a few invites to people we knew couldnt come, but they were important to us so we wanted to make sure they felt included 🙂
Post # 8
@emandem13: are you doing a website? You could write a note like that on there but i would agree with bees above and keep invite formal.
Post # 9
Are you 100% sure they won’t come? Normally they say to plan for 100% attendance (as in have enough seating at the cermeony, $ in the budget to feed them). Some people do have 100% attendance with a DW.
Post # 10
I would just send out the invites without saying anything. We are having a destination wedding next year and I sent out the invites to people even if we knew they couldnt come or wouldnt be able too.
Post # 11
Due to my FMIL’s additions to our guest list, we ended up inviting a lot of people to our DW who I am sure will not even consider attending (I don’t think she understands that guest lists for DWs are usually really small, but it wasn’t worth a fight!). We did not make any statements like that, but I have been expressing this sentiment whenever speaking to someone who expresses that they would like to come but likely won’t be able to, and did put a little note on my website. I think it would detract from the invite, and it’s presumptuous to assume that people won’t be able to come! We have had a few delightful surprises so far 🙂
Post # 12
Thanks folks, I think I will go with the website info and keep the invitation simple. I am about 98% certain that the people I am speaking of can not afford to go but I would be pleasantly suprised.
Post # 13
We did formal wording for our DW. We ended up with 150 attendees! I think your first idea almost implies you don’t want them to make the effort or don’t mind if they don’t come.. On our website, we said we understand this is a huge ask for many reasons but if there is anything we can do to help with transport or accomodation advice, please do get in touch.
Some couldn’t come but it was then up to them to reply saying so rather than you almost saying here’s your invite although we know you won’t come. Some who we thought would never make it – 3 kids, no grandparents to babysit, work in a school etc – all did which was fantastic!