Post # 1
Just got engaged less than a month ago and I am brainstorming.
My fiance and I have large families. I am thinking when I receive guestlists from our parents, the list will include about 400 people (90% family members). I would have no worries, if the parents were paying (or I was wealthy), yet I think my fiance and I will be flipping "most" of the bill. This does not bother me, yet we are also in the process of buying a home, etc. and wondering how to budget this all.
A thought is to have a destination reception to cut down on cost overall. The ceremony would be at a catholic church in my hometown, New Orleans and board a cruise ship a few miles away right after. His family lives 2-3 hours away while 75% of my side of the family is out of town (so these people will also probably have to buy a plane flight as well).
This is just a thought for now, bc as all brides, I want the reception to be unique, yet I think I may be cheating some families members out of memories of my important "New Orleans Wedding Day" if they cannot afford to take a cruise in the middle of April 2010.
Post # 3
I think it would be so neat to have a wedding in New Orleans. Is your problem that you want to cut down the guest list, but you are afraid of hurting people’s feelings if you do (hence a cruise reception, in which many will decline)? Is the cruise an actual 5-7day cruise?
Admittedly, I’ve never looked into it, but would a cruise, even with a limited guest list really save you money? just wondering.
If you’re trying to cut back and save for a house, could you just have it locally and really make it intimate? I know in large families, if everyone else and their cousin has invited all the same remote family members, you (or you parents) probably feel some pressure to have the same guest list. But maybe you can convince them that something smaller will be fun and different. I’ve seen some spectacular venues that only hold a small number of folks. I was disppointed at times when I saw a venue that was too small. Bigger doens’t always make better.
Post # 4
Don’t think of it as "cheating your family out of memories". This is YOUR wedding! I think a cruise reception is a great idea. Its unique and sounds like it would fun! Just do want YOU want. Picture your day in our head, what do you see?? If all those faces of your family are there than maybe you should rethink this option. If all you see is you and your FI, then do it!