Etiquette Snob here… lol
In truth you can Invite whomever you want.
I do believe there is a difference tho between a Destination “sort of at home” and one that is definitely far away.
Sort of at home, would be for me in a different city / location… than the one people might expect
So if the Bride & her family lives in NYCity… she went to Uni / got a job in Philly… and her Hubby2B is from Memphis
NYCity would be a natural choice of where people might think she’d be getting married.
Philly would also make sense.
Memphis is going to maybe come as a surprise (but do-able) for the NYCity & Philly folks.
BUT if you mean a far off Destination…
Like flying off to Rio, The Canadian Rockies, Europe or even the other side of the country … then ya, that truly is a DESTINATION WEDDING (more so if it isn’t the homebase for either the Bride or the Groom)
In scenario one, I think you can send out as many Invites as you please (Wedding in the same country)
In the second scenario, it gets a lot trickier… especially so as many people consider Vacation / Destination Weddings to be more about the Bride & Groom and their wants, than the comfort & convenience (considerations that should be made) for one’s Guests
(Sorry… but it is the truth on what people think & say)
In the latter sake, I’d cut back my Invites to just nearest & dearest… and have a Back Home Reception Party for Family & Friends who couldn’t make it.
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Mr TTR & I are Older Encores… we Eloped (just the 2 of us) to a Destination Wedding so we could marry in a Favourite Destination on a Beach over Christmas. We had a FABULOUS Back Home Reception Party for Family & Friends after we got home after the Honeymoon.
Whole thing was AWESOME.
We never thought we’d have any sort of a Reception… but so many of our Family & Friends wanted to celebrate with us (even 3 couples wanted to come crash our Elopement) that we decided we were blessed with many who loved us… and it was the right thing to do for them… more than it was for us.
And therein lies the key. Sometimes when it comes to events that look like they are all about you they truly can be more about one’s Guests (Funerals can be like that too)
Hope this helps,