Post # 1
Hello DW Brides!
I wanted to start a post because I did not see any like it. I live in Texas and my FH and I want to get married on a beach in Florida. We plan on inviting everyone but we’re sure only about 20-40 will show. With this being said this will be small and intimate. As we want it. We will provide food for our guests after the wedding just something small at the hotel. Not necessarily a “reception”. Just eat then go hang out. It may not even be in a ballroom. We may just rent out the hotel restaurant or something like that. We’ll have a bigger reception in Texas when we return.
I have a few questions for those brides who are planning or had a DW.
- For those who had small/intimate ceremonies as mine will be. Did you do any decor? If so what? I’m not sure if this is necessary since there will not be that many people. I was thinking maybe chair covers and sashes but that was the extent of my thoughts.
- When planning your DW did you plan from afar? How many “planning trips” did you take, if any? I would like to plan pretty much everything myself since it’s going to be small/intimate. I would like to NOT have a wedding planner except for the hotel provided one. I’m not sure how much I can get accomplished. For those who took “planning trips” what did you get accomplished?
- Did you book your venue BEFORE seeing it or vice versa since it was a DW?
Please help! Thanks Bees!
Post # 3
I had been to the town that our DW was in a few years before the wedding, so I was well acquainted in it. We did not view the venur in person at all, nor did I fly to FL to have any planning trips.
We had about 40 people at the wedding so I did do table decor and flowers.
The hotel had their own coordinator that we worked with and she did help.
Post # 4
@Miss Sapphire: Thanks. How did that turn out? What kind of “reception” did you do since it was so small? We’ve been to the city ONCE but feel in love with it. I don’t think I will be able to take any “planning trips” either just because of timing. We will probably try to make it down there on a vacation but to also take a look but it won’t be until 4-6 months b4 the wedding. Which means everything will have to already be booked by then.
Did you DW Brides hire a planner/coordinator?
Post # 5
I hired a wedding planner for my “DW” (if you can call it that) I live in Charlotte NC, getting married at the beach in SC. (only about 4 hours away), but I have a 3 yr old and will likely not make many trips down there, so for me a wedding planner was a must.
We’ve made one short trip there…we had meetings with our venue coordinator, photographer, cake, dj, and planner…met with all of them in one day and did our taste testing the same evening. We were there a total of 20 hours, so it was very rushed.
We are having a little bit larger wedding than you, about 50 or so. I am not doing any decor..I figured the ocean backdrop, the sunset and the palm trees were decor enough!
Because of the small amount of people, we are just doing a casual buffet dinner. I like your idea of just renting out the hotel restaurant…and the hotel most likely will provide linens for no extra charge if you rent the room. Some hotels/resorts will provide glassware for centerpieces too, which could save you a ton of money, if you wanted to decorate the tables.
I know you said you didn’t want to hire a planner…neither did I, but I finally did. I knew I would only be making one, possibly two trips down to SC before the wedding and I needed someone to be my eyes and ears, someone who knows the area…
My planner researched all my vendors and arranged all the meetings for us when we went down there….completely stress free. I told her what day we would be there, she told us where to meet her and she had everything arranged…it was very nice. : )
Post # 6
We are having a DW overseas next year, and so far the planning is going okay. we are having a small “reception” as well, and the B and B where it will be at asked about decorations already (I found this odd as it’s 10 months in advance!), and we already worked out that I was going with simple table designs and I will ship the stuff to the guesthouse so I don’t have to take it with me on the plane.
Luckily we have a wedding coordinator who gives recommendations of vendors that she’s worked with before and helps track down stuff we might want. She’s also there to help with the paperwork for the marriage license.