Destination Wedding day time cocktail reception and appetizers

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1864 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@elliptical2013:  Not serving a meal and instead go clubbing and drinking… for a WEDDING?? I find that beyond strange. To each his own, however I would never attend a wedding like that.

If someone is going to throw a party, and in this case people are actually traveling and paying hotel/car fees to go there, I would most certainly expect that my tummy is full after dinner. I’d be very annoyed if I went to a destination wedding and for dinner all I was offered was cheese, crackers, and fruit. 


Post # 5
1864 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@elliptical2013: I would think it’s okay for a brunch wedding, but I think there should be a few other items for guests to enjoy along with the cheese, crackers, and fruit. But I’m personally big on making sure guests are full when they come to any party that I throw. It’s a big deal to me.

In terms of a destination, people are spending A LOT of money to come and even though it is considered a “vacation” for them, I personally feel that a dinner should be included. I would cut cuts wherever I could in order to serve a meal to guests. Even if the wedding was in the same city, I would cut costs wherever I could to serve a full dinner. 

Post # 6
135 posts
Blushing bee

If the entire thing is super short and clearly timed between meals, that might be okay for a local wedding, but if they travel, you gotta give them a full meal.  Sorry.  It’s expensive, but at least destination weddings cut down on the overall number of guests.

Post # 7
1168 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@elliptical2013:  Personally I feel you should almost always have a full meal- if not you should have a variety and many appetizers that it could be in place of a meal. If you have people coming in from out of town/taking a plane to get to your wedding, then definitely a meal.

If you had a guest coming in from out of town to only to visit you, would you only invite them over for cocktails? No you would either go out to dinner or you would host a meal. 

things that would maybe not be considered a meal but would be “at least something” having a fully loaded cocktail reception – passed appetizers, carving station, pasta station, salad station, cheese, crackers fruit, mashed pottato bar— basically a variety of small portions of everything but in large enough quantities that it could certainly be a meal. 

Post # 8
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@elliptical2013:  Here’s what we did: We had a morning wedding with a luncheon banquet and unlimited Mimosas ($17/pp), then went out drinking and clubbing that night in a party bus that we rented, and we paid for all the booze that night!

The total cost to us was under 2.5K for our 42 person wedding AND bringing 15 people out with us that night!

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