Post # 1
I saw a different post where a bee asked if she could have a destination wedding in Las Vegas but not serve a meal instead they would just go drinking etc after wards to party at the clubs. obviously a lot of people said no you have to serve food at least something.
it’s the at least something part I am wondering
so would it make it okay to have a destination wedding in Las Vegas with just appetizers and cocktails? Or is that still not ok? cheese crackers and fruit trays qualify under “at least something”
my personal opinion is if you have to travel, at least serve a meal.
Post # 3
@elliptical2013: Not serving a meal and instead go clubbing and drinking… for a WEDDING?? I find that beyond strange. To each his own, however I would never attend a wedding like that.
If someone is going to throw a party, and in this case people are actually traveling and paying hotel/car fees to go there, I would most certainly expect that my tummy is full after dinner. I’d be very annoyed if I went to a destination wedding and for dinner all I was offered was cheese, crackers, and fruit.
Post # 4
@Diamond84: now would you feel better if it was a brunch wedding?
is there an etiquette or rule book that comes along with destination weddings?
for my own wedding its slightly destination 1.5 hours of a drive but I’m serving full meal appetizers open bar etc
but would you go to a Las Vegas cocktail/appetizer wedding only? or a brunch? Something that’s not a dinner meal.
Post # 5
@elliptical2013: I would think it’s okay for a brunch wedding, but I think there should be a few other items for guests to enjoy along with the cheese, crackers, and fruit. But I’m personally big on making sure guests are full when they come to any party that I throw. It’s a big deal to me.
In terms of a destination, people are spending A LOT of money to come and even though it is considered a “vacation” for them, I personally feel that a dinner should be included. I would cut cuts wherever I could in order to serve a meal to guests. Even if the wedding was in the same city, I would cut costs wherever I could to serve a full dinner.
Post # 6
If the entire thing is super short and clearly timed between meals, that might be okay for a local wedding, but if they travel, you gotta give them a full meal. Sorry. It’s expensive, but at least destination weddings cut down on the overall number of guests.
Post # 7
@elliptical2013: Personally I feel you should almost always have a full meal- if not you should have a variety and many appetizers that it could be in place of a meal. If you have people coming in from out of town/taking a plane to get to your wedding, then definitely a meal.
If you had a guest coming in from out of town to only to visit you, would you only invite them over for cocktails? No you would either go out to dinner or you would host a meal.
things that would maybe not be considered a meal but would be “at least something” having a fully loaded cocktail reception – passed appetizers, carving station, pasta station, salad station, cheese, crackers fruit, mashed pottato bar— basically a variety of small portions of everything but in large enough quantities that it could certainly be a meal.
Post # 8
@elliptical2013: Here’s what we did: We had a morning wedding with a luncheon banquet and unlimited Mimosas ($17/pp), then went out drinking and clubbing that night in a party bus that we rented, and we paid for all the booze that night!
The total cost to us was under 2.5K for our 42 person wedding AND bringing 15 people out with us that night!
Post # 9
@BrandNewBride: omg that is so awesome!!!!! Mimosa = my favorite drink