- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
Okay, so I’m getting married 9/19/09 in Negril, Jamaica. My FI and I were going to have a ceremony in our hometown, in my family’s front lawn, but I just couldn’t pull off what I wanted, and have any money for my dress. So, since he has always wanted to get married on the beach, I gave in and said, "We’re going to Jamaica".
That being said, I searched, and searched for a cheap (but lovely) place to stay, wed, and honeymoon and vinally found a wonderful villa where the beaches and cliffs meet. This was well affordable, as is our wedding planner, Isabelle. Origionally, when this all started, his parents (both sets), my parents, and my MatronOH and MaidOH would be attending… Since then, both of his parents have lost their jobs, and my Matron has decided she doesn’t want to go because she doesn’t want to go out of the country. And my Maid doesn’t want to go because she doesn’t want to spend any money on me. (Not a very good Maid, huh)
The villa I had found has more than enough room for everyone, and the more people that go, the cheaper it gets. To make things even better, it has a staff that will cook/clean/shop, etc. and a person can eat for less than $30.00 per day. I worked up a budget for everyone for 5 nights, including airfar, and it came up to less than $1200.00 per couple. (except us of course)… Everyone jumped at the opportunity to go, but since, everyone but my parents have backed out.
My problem is this, now that everyone has backed out, I can’t afford to have the wedding anymore! It’s put me completly over budget, and everything has already had deposits made! The only thing that hadn’t been purchased (and still hasn’t) is the flights because no one would pay for anything, or get me any money. Now my flights have gone up, my cost for the villa has gone up, and no one will be there to share in our special day.
I understand times are hard right now. I understand people have their own lives, and it’s their money. But when you say you’re going to do something, (especially like this) do it. I can’t even afford shoes, or jewelery, or decorations at the wedding now! HECK! I can’t even afford food to eat while where there now, because I’m having to suck up their costs!
Do I have a right to be upset? Is this just pre-wedding jitters? Am I just being selfish? I hate to bother any of you with thoughts on this, but thanks to this whole thing, I don’t even feel like I can talk to any of these people about it. my Matron just keeps trying to talk me out of everything that I say I like, and still trying to talk me into moving the wedding back here. My Maid… well, she’s just to self-centered to care about someone else’s anything enless it involves her…
Where do I go from here? What do I do? More importantly, how do I get back to "Wanting" to actually have my wedding?!