(Closed) Destination Wedding Guest List vs. Bridal Shower Guest List?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it’s rude to invite someone to a shower that you wouldnt extend the offer to attend your wedding.  If you invited theSe people to your dw and it just ended up that only close family and friends are attending by default that’s one thing, but if they’re not given an option they shouldn’t be invited to a shower either. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes I’m having a DW in Jamaica… I live in Washington State and my MOH lives in Alaska, where a lot of my family and high school friends are.  She wanted to throw me a shower but, really, I’m only inviting a few people there so I’d feel terrible having a shower with a bunch of people who aren’t invited to my wedding.  

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Bumpity bump!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Diamond84:  I’m in this same situation and would love to hear other peoples opinions on this!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Diamond84:  In general I kind of don’t “get” at home receptions (if you’re having a reception anyway, why not just get married locally and call that your wedding and save your family and close friends the hassle of traveling?). 

But as a guest I wouldn’t be as annoyed if I was invited to a shower and an at home reception. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Diamond84:  I would still have a small registry of you want. We had a traditional wedding and was surprised at the generosity of people that either weren’t invited did weren’t able to make it to the wedding.  (ie our coworkers got us about $500 worth of bb&b stuff off Our registry as a group gift at a lunch hour shower). 

Your other option is to just invite all people that you would genuinely love it if they jumped on a  plane and came to your dw, then you can invite them to any related party regardless of whether they actually come. 

Or if you really just want to hang out with your girls just plan a get together that isn’t called a shower before you leave and I wouldn’t be surprised if it organically became a chance to celebrate your weddIng without the pretense of gifts. 

That said even with my at home wedding I only had 3 girlfriends at my shower.  The rest weremostly aunts/gmas/cousins kind of thing. 

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