(Closed) Paying for guests? DW! Help!

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I paid for about 8 people in my family to attend my destination wedding.  I couldn’t imagine getting married without them in attendance, but I also wanted the wedding of my dreams, which happened to be pretty far from home.

Like you, we’re saving a ton of money by having a much smaller wedding, so we’re putting some of the wedding money towards paying for travel costs.

Post # 4
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you do pay for a few must-haves, be sure to keep it on the down-low.  I see nothing wrong with it if you have the budget, but other guests might take offense.

Post # 5
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I didn’t pay for any of my guests, but knew that if some were going to have trouble attending, we would have helped out. We didn’t offer though, people generally find that offensive.

Post # 6
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My sister did a Destination Wedding on a cruise and paid for her bridal party and family. She had exactly your same budget and figured she would rather have a week with the closest people to her than one night with everyone and anyone she knew/related to (we have large families)

Post # 7
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i wouldn’t voice it to everyone but perhaps to the important guests.  hopefully they won’t take offense to it.

be careful who you decide to pay for.  i have heard of one couple where they paid for some of their guests and at the last minute, a couple of guests cancelled.  obviously the guests didn’t care so much b/c they weren’t out of pocket any money.  for the bride and groom, it’s $2500 that could have gone to something else.

another way to show appreciation during a dw is to arrange a special excursion for the group.  or perhaps give each guest a resort gift card to spend on whatever they want while at the resort; gift shop, spa, tours, etc.

Post # 8
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Everyone that mattered on my side of the family had NO problems getting to our Destination Wedding.  DH’s family had some issues.  His grandma couldn’t make the 6 hour flight so she didn’t come.  And we did have to pay BIL’s way b/c he was having financial problems at the time.  We didn’t pay for BIL’s Girlfriend or her little girl b/c it would have been too much money.  She wasn’t too upset though since she’s never met us anyways.

Post # 9
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MrsWheaton:  we didn’t pay for any of our guests to join us in our destination wedding.  and we still ended up with 87 adults and 16 kids.  but if we had the money, that would’ve been nice to treat everybody. 

Post # 10
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MrsWheaton:  All of our guests will pay for themselves. But I’ll pay for a hotel room for my maid of honor for 4 nights before the wedding, which is around 1k.


Post # 11
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We thought we would end up paying for two of our bridal party members but it turned out they were able to make it work 🙂 FI’s parents are paying for quite a few people though…they are paying for his brother, sister and her boyfriend, and possibly his other sister as well :S I would feel worse about this if they weren’t one of the biggest proponents they had for doing a Destination Wedding…

Post # 12
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We were in the same boat. We were going to have a wedding in Sugar Land for around 30K for around 150 people. We changed our minds and are getting married on the Carnival triumph in January. We paid for all of the bridal party to go and in the end we have 15 rooms booked.  Even with us paying for the bridal party we will still only be spending around 17K for the whole wedding!!!!

Post # 13
1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We’re paying for ourselves, my Mom and Dad and his Mom(his dad passed away). It’s definitely the most expensive part of our wedding,but worth it in my opinion.

Post # 14
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Since the money is coming from my Dad, I am insisting that we use the budget to pay for my parents and my brother/his gf. Otherwise he’d be handing over a check AND paying for the family.

We are not planning to pay for any other guests, because the point of us traveling was to avoid spending so much on a wedding back home, and have more time to celebrate with those closest to us. That said, if an important guest couldn’t afford it, we’d most likely step in and help.

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