Post # 1
I’ve recently been looking into a Destination Wedding in Paris and am trying to figure out if its a good choice for my fiance and I. I love that it makes your wedding even more memorable and special and allows you more freedom than a traditional wedding. I’m frustrated with having to stay in the confines that certain venues establish about guest number, hours available for the venue, minimum food/drink costs, etc. We are already anticipating an out-of-state wedding for our guests bc my fiance is in the military and we will be relocating before a wedding at home is possible-so right there our guest list is being reduced. Is it too selfish to take away this event from our family and friends who are looking forward to our wedding? We want to include everyone but its almost becoming more of a hassle…
Any advice and positive/negative experiences with an international Destination Wedding is greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
1. As with any international destination, but especially France, make sure that you are up to speed on their marriage licensing laws. I believe in France you have to live there together for 40 consecutive days or something before the State will marry you (France does not recgonize religious ceremonies. And it might have to be 40 days in the same province or something). Check on this.
2. I’ll be really really honest here, as a Destination Wedding guest several times over: you are not “selfish” for taking the event away from those who are looking forward to it. You might be seen as MORE selfish for making the event extremely time-consuming and expensive for your guests to attend. For France, from the US, you can count on somewhere around $1-2K in out of pocket expense for each person who attends your wedding (unless you’re loaded and can pay for their airfare, lodging, and food). That’s not counting things like requesting vacation time from jobs, paying for pet-sitting or childcare, so on and so forth.
I’m not saying these things to discourage you–I LOVED my friends’ DWs and had a great time–and the people who are close to you will come and have a good time. But I’m just trying to explain what you’re getting into.
Think about maybe having a small Destination Wedding or even an elopement and then celebrating with a large party at home afterwards with your families, if you are concerned that you won’t be able to invite as many people as you want. We did a small ceremony with only our immediate families and then had a party later and everyone loved it. You can, if you wish, restage the ceremony for fun 🙂
Post # 4
Darling Husband and I just got back from Paris a couple of weeks ago and it was amazing. But expensive. Cheapest hotels were around $175 a night and meals cost us around $50 per meal. We drove so we didn’t have airfare but I know it’s expensive…my parents are visiting us later this year and it cost $1k each…it’s now $1400 a ticket. Plus, every museum and historical place charges around $15pp to get in. It adds up quickly.
I agree with PP about checking into the legality of getting married there. I had a Destination Wedding and have been invited to some so my advice is…don’t plan your guests entire itinerary for them.
One friend had a bus to pick us up at the airport and take us back. It was a great idea at the time but we were limited to when we could fly in and would have to wait for everyone else to fly in. She also had the entire weekend planned and I was really upset that I didn’t get any time to sightsee on my own.
Post # 5
Thanks for the input! I should mention that my fiance and I have already had a civil ceremony but we are keeping that quite for family and friends, so the legality of getting married won’t be an issue.
@BothCoasts-we have thought about having a get together after the ceremony, I think that’s a good way to still involve our friends and family who aren’t there to witness the real deal. And putting into perspective what we’d be asking of guests does help in deciding who to ask to come since it is such a big endeavor.
@texasbee-thanks for the advice. I had thought maybe suggesting that the day before/after the ceremony we all do something together since it would be a small group and they did just fly halfway across the world to see us. I’d like to spend more than just part of a day with the guests that are there, but maybe leaving it an open invitation to spend extra time together would be best instead of trying to plan a days activities