Post # 1
I am the first to admit I am completely OCD and a major planning when it comes to events/parties. This is the biggest party of our lives and I want it to go well. Not knowing the number of guests is totally stressing me out. I would ideally love to get invites out (the sooner the better) so I can get RSVP’s back. From experience I know that it takes forever to get them from people. So my question, how far in advance is it acceptable but not too early? I don’t want to be annoying, but the sooner I can get final numbers in, the sooner I can plan away 🙂 We will be getting married June 8, 2013 🙂 Thanks all!!!
Post # 3
Since it’s a destination wedding, I would definitely do a save the date, with info on a website too, and then send the formal invitation 10 weeks prior. Just my two cents!
Post # 4
I would send a save the date as soon as you have all of the pertinent info ready since you are already under the one year mark. On the save the date include your wedding website address – if you dont have one there are tons of places to go for free ones. This way people can keep up with all of the planning information. And then I would send the formal wedding invites out 3-6 months in advance. (I have read in some places a year – but thats way too far in advance IMO)
In my experience we planned everything in under 6 months – so it didnt really give people a lot of time. Which in the end we wanted a small, intimate wedding anyway. We sent our STD 5 months out and then the formal invites about a month later.
Best of luck to you! Happy planning!
Post # 5
Hi, We are having a destination wedding in Bali next year in April and like you needed to know numbers early to assist in planning. We have extremely large families with 172 invited to the wedding and currenlty budgeted for 80. Our save the dates went out 12 months before the wedding date and we have just sent our RSVP’s out with the return date being 1st December. Most people think it is too early especially my mother who I have coped a lot of flack from but as we are tavelling to Bali for Christmas I wanted to be able to plan the finer details (and completely change our plans if needed if everyone is coming!) in person as communication is extremely difficult over email and virtually impossible (and expensive) by phone. I also wanted to let people know it is a three day event for when they are booking as the Save the Date didn’t provide this information. The invites also included info on booking, places to stay, flights and things to do in Bali which if the invites had been sent out 12 weeks before the wedding would have been pretty useless since most people would have already booked. Do what you need to do to make your wedding work for you – people can work around it 🙂
Post # 6
Once you get your date (aka the venue is booked), then make up a free wedding website (many to choose from) and start putting info on there that travelers would need to know, and send out save the dates with the date, and city/country. This means that the guest is invited, but guests do not RSVP to the STD, they use it as information to help them plan.
STDs go out 9-12 months in advanace for DW.
Invitations still only go out a few weeks prior to the wedding date. 6-8 weeks is typical for regular weddings, so I’d say 10 weeks prior is a good frame for DW. Nothing like 6 months or anything! You’ll probably have to figure a RSVP date which typically is 2 weeks prior to the head count due date from your caterer. This usually turns out to be one mont before the wedding date total, in most cases.
Also, they say to plan for 100% attendance. So if you’re hoping that 20% don’t actually make it to your venu because the venu actually holds less people than you invite, that can lead to very sticky situations should everyone decide to attend!
Post # 7
@bubblessmk: We sent out our save the dates 11.5 months out, and just sent our invites last week (7 months out), giving them 2 months to rsvp by November (5 months out from the wedding). We have to pay in full for all meals etc 3 months out with our resort.
Edit:Our wegding is a minimum of a 12 hour flight for most guests, we have guest coming from 8 different countries and to book international flights 6 months out is ideal for pricing.
Post # 8
We sent out our save the dates and travel info about 9 months before the weddding. We will then send out actual invites about 2 to 3 months before the wedding to the people we know will be joining us on the destination 🙂
Post # 9
We sent our invites out late January for our November wedding. We created a website around that time as well. It’s an international destination wedding and we have people coming from both US and Asia, so we had to provide them with the information early so they could get good hotel and air prices, and obtain visas/passports if need be. My family is very OCD when it comes to travel so the second we got engaged I had people asking me when we were going to send our invites out, lol.
Post # 10
Sent out the save the date magnets 11 months prior and the invites 6 months prior.
Post # 11
We sent out save the dates invites 15 months prior. With approx costing.
Sent invites out 8 months prior to wedding date with a 2 month RSVP.