- 5 years ago
I’ll try to make this short & sweet. I am going anon because I do have friends that might read my account and I would hate to offend anyone before I have a chance to explain:
My Fiance and I are getting married Next June. We haven’t put a deposit on a venue yet, but we’ve already decided on our wedding party, as we are all a close group of friends and it just made sense.
My parents are paying for the wedding out of pocket, no matter what. Even if we could still afford to pay for the wedding we want, my parents want to pay and there’s no question about it.
So, it’s March and I know it might still be early to pick a venue, but we have found the perfect place. It’s just amazing and I want to set the date already. My dad thinks I’m overreacting and being dramatic saying that AUGUST is too late to put a deposit. YES AUGUST. We have been engaged for about 7 months now, so it’s not like we are exactly rushing, we are just ready to worry about something fun rather than losing the day we have a connection to. The deposit is pretty steep, its about 1/3 the price of the whole wedding since the place we picked is all-inclusive. My parents are pretty well off and I know this is nothing to disrupt them financially. But, they are kind of hinting towards doing something cheaper and It’s starting to wear on me. We estimated about $9,000 for the whole wedding, and they keep wanting to lower the price to about $5,000. Most of the wedding guests are their friends and so they should be allowed to pick the price, but For the people they want, and the upscale party they keep alluding too… there’s no way $5,000 will be enough.
Well maybe it was a blessing in disguise that my Dad is procrastinating, because we’ve had some not so kind words exchanged between our wedding party about My Fiance and I. No one wanted to go dress shopping with me, no one wanted to see the venues with me, none of my girls wanted to celebrate my birthday with me. Okay, I understand weddings aren’t everyones cup of tea, but I seriously NEVER talk about my wedding with them. I hate bugging people about my thing, I just gave them a short speech about how excited I was to plan with them and am very happy I have such great friends… and then nothing. I let them know I really wanted them to come run wedding errands with me and they are all busy even with 2 weeks notice. So I just decided they won’t be apart of the planning and I can do it with my family, no big deal.
Just the overall stress and worrying has made me resent all this wedding planning and Fiance and I are seriously considering a Destination Wedding in Disney World. We checked prices and they seem reasonable. We have all the logistics mapped out and are actually excited that maybe this is what we needed. We are young and ready to be married. I am perfectly happy eloping but he wants a wedding and I want him to have that.
My parents already hosted and engagement party last year and invited about 30 people and they all came. Some brought gifts and we thanked every one of them. So ettiqutte wise, how are we able to have a destination wedding, when we know we could afford to invite 21 people? Those 21 include our wedding party, but we are like 100% sure if we told them about the Destination Wedding they would not come. But, of course, inviting them is my way of still including them. How do we deal with not having a wedding here and telling the people from the engagement party. I was thinking a small party when we get back and everyone gets a cd with the ceremony and some photos on it.
If we do want to have it in Florida, we need to decide quick so we can tell everyone early so they can save up. We want to so something fun and memorable, we are young 20somethings fresh out of college. He being a teacher and me starting nursing school we are not the type of people who want to lose sleep over this wedding when, after 6 years, we already feel married.
I am so sorry it’s long I just wanted to get all my feelings out there. I’m annoyed at our friends and money is always an issue. I am just so ready to move forward and do what we want instead of catering to other people’s ideas of our wedding day. Let me know if we are out of line about this whole destination wedding thing, outside of money.