Destination Wedding or Traditional or anything unique…

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re having a DW is Scotland – where FI’s family is. His parents aren’t well and couldn’t really travel here (I’m in DC too) so we decided to do the wedding there so they could attend. Being a DW, I wasn’t sure how many people would come, but ALL of the people who are most important to us are joining us. We invited about 115 and 68 are attending. Yes, not everyone is able to come to Scotland, but the ones that were crucial to us are coming. 

What really helped make them decision for us was talking to the people that we REALLY wanted there. We asked them before looking at venues or anything if they thought they’d want/be able to attend.  All those people that are the “I can’t get married without this person” types are attending. 

Post # 4
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11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@LilacandRoses:  if having family and friends at your wedding is important to you, have your wedding local (in your case, something at each location).

dw are wonderful but you cannot expect people to come.  it’s a big time and money commitment on someone.  i know that a lot of people will say, “if they want to be there, they will”.  yes, maybe, but a) are you willing to risk it and b) how much are you putting out your guests? 

we have a home in the yucatan.  my dh wanted us to have our wedding on our property.  it’s lovely, on a quiet beach, coconut palms surrounds the perimeter.  as pretty as it would be, i wanted my family with me.  i couldn’t ask them to spend their hard earned money or vacation time just for me.  it was easier to have our wedding near everyone and then everyone can attend (and they did).

Post # 5
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679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@LilacandRoses:  Congrats on your engagement! I’m in DC now too (need to update my profile :). My FI’s family is all in Turkey, and my family/our friends are all in the US… so we had some thinking to do as well. Since my FI’s family can’t travel to the US, we decided to do our legal “official” wedding over in Turkey next year. Of course it is open to any of our friends who would like to make the trip, but we aren’t really expecting any guests to come to Turkey besides my immediate family. 

Our solution was to have an engagement party here in the US so we would have a chance to celebrate with all the people who wouldn’t be able to come to our wedding. We have planned it for this fall and we are treating it like our wedding reception (although it is happening before the actual wedding if that makes sense!) I’m glad we decided to do a separate party here in the US (my bank account doesn’t agree however)- I know most of our guests would never be able to come to a DW so far away!

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