Destination Wedding Questions

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

1) Why did you choose a destination wedding rather than at home?

my FI’s parents live in Scotland. They are older and not in the bestmofmhealth and a flight to the US was not something they could do. If we wanted them there, we had to go to them

2) Where is your destination wedding and why?

Glasgow, Scotland

3) How many guests did you invite? Are all guests coming? Did you pay anything for your guests (flights/hotel)?

we invited 116. I think we’re at 71 right now including us that will be attending

4) Are you attaching a honeymoon?

yep. We’re staying in a fancy manor house form3 nights in Scotland and then going somewhere in Europe, probably Barcelona, for another 4 nights. We’ll spend a few days with his parents as well before heading back home

5) Did you visit the destination/venue beforehand? 

We’d both been to Scotland but neither of us had been to the venue before we booked it. We were able to see it and eat their food about 3 months after we booked it and it was all better than we anticipated. The food s excellent!!!!

6) How did you choose a venue? 

Internet and advice from friends/family. We knew we didn’t want a church or anything that used to be a church. Lots of Internet searching. 

7) Did you have a wedding planner? If so, what did they arrange? 

Nope. Doing it all ourselves 

8) Did you do anything for people who didn’t attend the wedding, i.e. friends or family who couldn’t attend? A party/reception afterwards when you got home?

nope. We thought about it but after talking to the important people, they were all coming to the actual wedding so what was ttheming of doing something else 🙂

9) What did you arrange from your home country and what did you arrange locally at the destination?

I’ve done everything from the US. I’ve never met the photographer or florelse or anyone else really ow that I think about it 🙂 

10) Do you have any other tips?

I specifically picked a place that was gorgeous on its own – it doesn’t need decor at all. I’m doing a few flower arrangements and that’s it. Make it easier on yourself and do as little decor as you can – or be ok with paying someone there to do it. DIY and transporting it don’t work as well for a DW

 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@sfp:  I’m in the process of sort of planning.  We are pretty undecided b/w a DW and a very small ceremony only with just our parents and then an “elopement” with just us two elsewhere.  But, I will answer some of your questions

1) Why did you choose a destination wedding rather than at home?  Our families are pretty spread apart and at least half the guest list would have to travel anyway.  They’re cheaper than having a wedding stateside, especially as compared to NY where half our guest list is and we would likely have it, and we wanted to keep the guest list small and intimate and this would guarantee that only people who felt we were important enough to fly for would actually come.  Also, I’ve always dreamed of getting married on the beach and I think that a DW is beautiful and makes for the most amazing pictures.   

2) Where is your destination wedding and why?  We are likely going with Punta Cana, DR.  Although we are slightly torn b/c FI wants a small, boutique hotel and I want a large AI.  FI wants no strangers to be around, but I want an AI (all incl) b/c I want my guests to feel like they’re on the best vacation for the entire weekend or however long it is.  So, that narrowed it down to DR or Cancun, but DR has more affordable resorts.   

3) How many guests did you invite? Are all guests coming? Did you pay anything for your guests (flights/hotel)?  Our guest list has not been finalized, but we’re between 35-50, thinking we would invite about 50, but really only about 35 would actually come.  We would not be paying for any travel costs. 

4) Are you attaching a honeymoon?  We were going to do a “mini-moon” and then do a real honeymoon elsewhere, we were thinking of Europe. 

5) Did you visit the destination/venue beforehand? We did consider one place that we went on vacation before b/c we LOVED that resort, but we ended up leaning towards the DR.  

6) How did you choose a venue? Reviews and tripadvisor.com – I spent a lot of time on bestdestinationwedding.com 

7) Did you have a wedding planner? If so, what did they arrange? No.

8) Did you do anything for people who didn’t attend the wedding, i.e. friends or family who couldn’t attend? A party/reception afterwards when you got home?  We were not considering an AHR.  Again, everyone is spread across the country (and world), so this wouldn’t be feasible for us.  If we were going to do an AHR, then we may as well just not do a DW.   

9) What did you arrange from your home country and what did you arrange locally at the destination?  N/A

10) Do you have any other tips?  check out the bestdestinationwedding.com site – it’s a forum just like this, but all the brides are doing DWs. 

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

1) it was a lot cheaper than doing it in canada. 

Edit: I moved to canada to be with FI. All of his family is here where all of my family and friends are scattered throughout the states, including my parents who are now in california. I didn’t want to do it in wisconsin where I grew up and not everyone has passports to come to canada/another country. I picked something that was both vorgeous and had a lot of meaning. The ceremony will be at my great uncle’s house which means the world to both him and my dad. Its a win/win. 

 

 

2) Tennessee. Its where my dad grew up and the mountaibs in fall should be gorgeous.

 

 

 

3) we invited 90. Only 70 are probably coming. There’s a lot who just can’t afford it from the states 

 

 

 

and quite a few who are in ireland/germany. 

 

 

 

4)we’re doing a minimoon probably. FI wants to go to Banff in the spring/sunmer.

 

 

 

5) yes we did, multiple tines. FI went with me once and I went by myself once. 

 

 

 

6) a lot of research. We had a lot of things wedidn’t want. I searched for hours online anf came up with a list of about 20 places and sent it to FI who picked what he liked. That left us with 3 choices, which we went and saw and picked what we loved.

 

 

 

7)it just wasn’t in the budget so I’ve been doing a lot with the help of my mom.

 

 

 

8) no, everyone we want is coming and the ones who aren’t live too far away for us to plan sonethibg.

 

 

 

9) I arranged the dj, photographers,talked to all venues, my dress, and all the little things from home. The only things I did there on trips was picking out a venue, flowers because I originally didn’t want them and a tent for rain purposes. We’re also taking care of alcohol from here and I found hotels for room blocks here as well, I just faxed them the paperwork. 

 

 

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

 

1) Why did you choose a destination wedding rather than at home?

My fiancé has a huge family. We were gifted money when we got engaged and had to decide on the best use of our money. With dw, we were able to have a wedding AND buy a house. Also we were able to avoid guest list drama by inviting everyone.

2) Where is your destination wedding and why?

Punta Cana… It was the most economical for our guests. (melia caribe)

3) How many guests did you invite? Are all guests coming? Did you pay anything for your guests (flights/hotel)?

We invited around 200. So far 73 have booked and we think we will end up with around 80.

4) Are you attaching a honeymoon?

We may stay a few days after but we aren’t sure yet… We may wait a few months and go to Europe in the spring.

5) Did you visit the destination/venue beforehand? 

No. I’m nervous haha.

6) How did you choose a venue? 

It was really overwhelming. We hired destination weddings.com and that was helpful for narrowing down. We were given pricing and researched from there. Private reception venues were important to me. Also we had a friend who had been and recommended our resort so that sold us.

7) Did you have a wedding planner? If so, what did they arrange? 

Just the contact at the resort. Theyve been pretty useless so far haha. I have to be pretty annoying/demanding to get answers so far but I hear that’s normaluntil closer to the wedding.

8) Did you do anything for people who didn’t attend the wedding, i.e. friends or family who couldn’t attend? A party/reception afterwards when you got home?

No we aren’t doing anything at home. Planning one wedding is enough work.

9) What did you arrange from your home country and what did you arrange locally at the destination?

I have roughly planned everything in my head and I’m just hoping it’ll all be possible once we arethere. I think we wait until we are down there to choose flowers etc but through email I’ve been able to give ideas about what I want, choose the venues for ceremony and reception, book our pastor, book a photographer, etc.

10) Do you have any other tips?

Try to be relaxed and realize they do this all th time and it’ll all come together. I’m a huge stress case/ planner and I’ve had to really let go. I’m planning everything I want as if it’s possible ad just hoping for the best. Also, let go of your guilt!!!! I spent so much time apologizing for having a DW and finally realized it was silly. This is what we chose for ourselves and we need to stand behind it!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

For the beginning of all of this FI and I were still long distance as well. So that put some more frustrations into it. You don’t have to pick an island to be destination. You could always pick somewhere in whatever country you are that’s further away. 

My familyis the one that’s small and I said something to FFIL one day who responded with this, I’m marrying into his family therefore making it my family as well. I won’t have just 4 people there I’ll be having 40 plus friends who care so dearly. Do not worry about it. 

His family, asis mine, are so excited to beable to travel for this and most are turning it into a vacation to see nashville and everything else. 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

1) Why did you choose a destination wedding rather than at home?

we chose to have a destination wedding due to how far spread across the world our families andfriends are. FI is from the UK, I’m from australia but we now live in the Middle East! We couldn’t settle on any of those 3 locations without offending or upsetting others, so we thought oh well… Lets just run away!

2) Where is your destination wedding and why?


maui Hawaii. We chose Hawaii by getting on Expedia and searching flight costs from each of our home cities… Hawaii was just in the middle cost and time wise for our families. We chose Maui because I wanted to say we were just “maui’d”!!!

3) How many guests did you invite? Are all guests coming? Did you pay anything for your guests (flights/hotel)?

we invited 30 from across the globe. Only 10 are coming and those are out nearest and dearest and the people that truly matter the most. We have paid for our parents flights but that’s it.

4) Are you attaching a honeymoon?

no. Our parents are making a holiday out of it and following us around (we are off to Vegas after!) 

5) Did you visit the destination/venue beforehand? 

Nope! Fingers crossed its lovely tho!!!

6) How did you choose a venue? 

Lots of googling and talking to people who love there (Internet forums)

7) Did you have a wedding planner? If so, what did they arrange? 

Yes we do. She has arranged our wedding licence appointment, beach permits, cake, flowers, photographer, hair/make up. she will also be our day of coordinator.

8) Did you do anything for people who didn’t attend the wedding, i.e. friends or family who couldn’t attend? A party/reception afterwards when you got home?

we will have a party where we live in November (getting married July, but due to work commitments, won’t get a chance until then) then for our 1 year anniversary a party in Australia.

9) What did you arrange from your home country and what did you arrange locally at the destination?

we are arranging everything from home… Well as much as possible… I am a slight control freak!!!

10) Do you have any other tips?

goodluck!  no tips as yet… Maybe after the event!

 

 
 

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