Post # 1
We are having a destination wedding in Miami on November 5th (followed by a weekend cruise to the Bahamas with everyone).
We have close to 100 people coming from different states.
I know at most rehearsal dinners you should invite out of towners but that wouldn’t be feasible in this case. We would, however, love to maybe invite a few people that are not in our bridal party or immediate family, but we would hate for others to feel exluded.
I was wondering what you destination wedding brides are doing for Your rehearsal dinner?
Post # 3
The only people you really have to invite are those who are in the rehearsal. Beyond that, you are best off inviting people by categories. For example, if you invite immediate families, you would be fine. But if you invite your sister but not your partner’s sister, your partner’s sister may well find out about it and feel insulted.
Post # 4
since people are traveling for yours, it might be nice to have some kind of welcome party for everyone after your more intimate rehearsal dinner. you could just do a chips and dips kinda casual thing after, or maybe just have some sweets or something?
Post # 5
We had a small wedding (40 people) and no bridal party (and no rehearsal), so we just hosted a welcome party event for everyone who was around the day before (which was almost everyone). Agree with 2dBride – if you’re not going to invite everyone, just make sure it’s equal by category on each side. That was how we figured out our small guest list for the wedding itself. Then people can’t really be upset if they were equally excluded!
Post # 6
There are no real “rules” on rehearsal dinners, but we are in the same boat, all of our guests will be from out of town so we decided that every one will be invited to the RD.
Post # 7
For our wedding we are inviting everyone to the rehearsal dinner, however we are only having 25-30 guests.
If you can’t invite all of your guests, I would just invite those in your immediate family and in the wedding party. Since it’s a destination wedding you’ll be able to spend a lot of time with your guests. BUT, if I was invited to your wedding and left out of the RD when others were invited, I think I might be a little annoyed/insulted.
Post # 8
Side note – we are also hosting an open happy hour at one of the resort’s bar as a “Welcome Happy Hour”. The resort charged us per person but it was fairly reasonable. Perhaps you could invite all of your guests to a happy hour or other activity (bonfire?)
Post # 9
We are inviting everyone that take the time to come out. None of our guests lie there, so I am calling it a WELCOME RECEPTION.
Post # 10
Thanks bees! Great advice from everyone.
With our 6 BMs and 6 GMs, their SOs and kids, our immediate families, grandma and godparents, we’re looking at close to 40 people for the rehearsal dinner alone.
I’m so jealous of everyone’s smaller guest list. It would be great to be able to invite everyone, but I don’t think budget will allow. Plus we’re already putting $20 towards each guests cruise ticket to make it easier on them.
I really wish we could have something else after the rehearsal (as @Ms. Meowerson mentioned) but since everyone else will be at the hotel and transportation is an issue, I don’t know what we can do or if we can work it in. =0/ Any ideas?
I’d like to upgrade everyones room to include breakfast and leave them a note in their welcome bags letting them know, but with our wedding being at 8:30 AM (insane I know), I don’t even know if they’ll have time.
Post # 11
We had what was pretty much a destination wedding — everyone had to at least drive an hour to get there, and many flew in from across the country. So I was kind of in the same boat. I knew many rehearsal dinners included faraway people, but it wasn’t in our budget to feed everyone — and what good is a rehearsal dinner if all 108 people came to that, too?
To me, it was important to have a fairly intimate (well, as intimate as possible at a Bubba Gump, lol!) group to hand out gifts to our wedding party and parents, and spend time with family before things got crazy.
My opinion is, if you can’t invite everyone, make sure you set “rules” for who is invited because I personally would worry about hurting people’s feelings. And not just people’s feelings — people who probably traveled a long way to attend our wedding. So if I were you, I would stick with “wedding party + family” or something concrete. Just my two cents! Good luck!
Post # 12
Thanks @Moffy, I totally agree.
I think we’ll try to stick as much to the basics as possible to avoid any problems.