Post # 1
I’ve been a regular follower of Weddingbee and have had my first major wedding crisis yesterday. I’ve been planning a destination wedding for 4(yes, 4!) years, as we kept delaying the wedding date because of the recession to make the trip more accommodating for everyone and have scrimped and saved $$. We totally understand it is still an extravagance for any guest and have had the criticisms for friends and family but those that want to come are coming. However, my best friend told me last night that she disapproves of our spending and says its impractical. We should be having a local wedding to rally money from people we don’t know, and don’t care about, because apparently having a wedding is just about raising money. We don’t believe in that.
Secondly she does’t want to go because she is single and doesn’t want to be the only single person there and it make would her miserable. Plus for her, it is not a financial issue as she does very well. She just doesn’t want to spend the money because it makes her feel bad.
What disappoints me is that people are so OPINIONATED about our wedding. I wish they didn’t have to express themselves and instead just wish us well, but decline. Most disappointing of all is to have your very best friend criticize you and not go.
Regardless,we are still excited and looking forward to our wedding in Italy next year. We don’t want to be in our sunset years looking back and regretting that we never had the wedding of our dreams.
Anybody else experiencing the Destination Wedding stress?
Post # 3
funny that it is your and your FIs wedding and all i heard in that post was how your friend is upset about what you are doing to her?? doesn’t make any sense if you ask me.
i am also a having a Destination Wedding. and i certainly experienced some stress from the beginning. i thought it was simple, pick a country with all inclusive resorts on the beach and book! nope, not so simple. not when your sister is a teacher and tells you have to plan your wedding around her teaching schedule….which means xmas holidays or spring (the 2 most expensive times to travel all year!). so ya, i definitely had some stress at first. then there was other stuff, but i won’t get into it on a public forum…just want to say i sympathize and encourage you to keep sticking to your dream. the people that DO come will be supportive and you will have an amazing time and it will be well worth it!
Post # 4
Awe I’m sorry to hear that your friend is being so unsupportive. After four (long!) years I’m surprised she couldn’t have just spoken up before, and then that way you could have at least found someone else to be in your wedding party that could help and be supportive (I saw in your previous post that she was going to be your MOH).
And as for not wanting to go to Italy single, ITS ITALY, and its full of good-looking, single wonderful guys, so I’m sure she could find someone nice (outside of the couples) to spend time with.
Post # 5
We are also planning a Destination Wedding to Europe next year and we’ve been through quite the same critiques. I think the two of you have already been more than accomodating by pushing back the date and considering your guest’s financial situations.
Like we have to remind ourselves, your wedding needs to be about what the two of you want and how you want to celebrate such an important event. I’ve had other friends who have had Destination Wedding and talked about how much their family complained, but then loved it afterwards. Guess it’s just a cross Destination Wedding brides have to bear. But if what you experienced is anything like us, it was actually cheaper for us to have the wedding overseas!
Good luck with everything. And when the stress gets to be a lot, just think about marrying your honey in romantic Italy!