Post # 1
I’ve been a regular follower of Weddingbee and have had my first major wedding crisis yesterday. I’ve been planning a destination wedding for 4(yes, 4!) years, as we kept delaying the wedding date because of the recession to make the trip more accommodating for everyone and have scrimped and saved $$. We totally understand it is still an extravagance for any guest and have had the criticisms for friends and family but those that want to come are coming. However, my best friend told me last night that she disapproves of our spending and says its impractical. We should be having a local wedding to rally money from people we don’t know, and don’t care about, because apparently having a wedding is just about raising money. We don’t believe in that.
Secondly she does’t want to go because she is single and doesn’t want to be the only single person there and it make would her miserable. Plus for her, it is not a financial issue as she does very well. She just doesn’t want to spend the money because it makes her feel bad.
What disappoints me is that people are so OPINIONATED about our wedding. I wish they didn’t have to express themselves and instead just wish us well, but decline. Most disappointing of all is to have your very best friend criticize you and not go.
Regardless,we are still excited and looking forward to our wedding in Italy next year. We don’t want to be in our sunset years looking back and regretting that we never had the wedding of our dreams.
Anybody else experiencing the DW stress?
Post # 3
Please don’t get me started. We have been planning our DW for about 2 years now. I’ve dealt with all the stress of picking a location,sticking to a budget. Everything finally came together and now I need to deal with the guests. We are having about 25 people (best friends and relatives). You would think that by having a small DW in the US with over a years’ notice that people would respond promptly, but they don’t. I have some people who want to have a week long vacation and treat my wedding like an after thought. Others want to be upset because I don’t take their advice on cakes,decor, and etc. I have washed my hands of all their drama and promised to keep all guests informed via our website and know in my heart that those who want to be there will and those that don’t,won’t!
Post # 4
If brides just planning one evening in the town they live in is stressed, I can only imagine the stress of a DW bride.. especially an DW out of the country. You have to be completely stressed and it’s quite normal. However, what isn’t normal is your best friends comments in such a rude manner. Yes, having a wedding in another country is extravagent, but it’s their choice to come or not. And for your single friend.. HELLO… it’s ITALY! She might meet a very handsome Italian guy! 😉
Post # 5
Wow waiting it out 4 years to have the wedding of your dreams? That’s dedication!! At this point, with so much already invested into the idea, you obviously won’t be changing your mind about having a DW. I’m surprised your friend wouldn’t get that. I also don’t see how anyone would think they would be “miserable” going on an Italian vacation, solo or not! Was this girl supposed to be your MOH? That would be so disappointing to have her disapprove so strongly about the whole thing. 🙁
Post # 6
Oops, looks like I should’ve posted this in the DW section. Will repost it there – but one last comment. Thankfully, I was originally going to ask my (ex) bf to be my MOH, as when I was engaged my sis was only 15… but now 4years later she is 19 and more mature now to be my MOH, so I asked my sis. My fiance and I already went through the hurdles of convincing our families that its a great idea. Now they are all excited to go. I just didn’t think a friend would be so difficult! Aside from this situation, the whole planning has been smooth sailing…