- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
We’ve been going back and forth about wedding plans and just not sure what to do.
Naturally, a lot of things play into our decisions on where to have it, when and how much to spend.
I had always fantasized about a proposal on the pier or the beach in the area where I have vacationed since I’m an infant: Cape Cod, Mass. When I am there, I’m a different person. I transform into this calm, relaxed, uphoric woman with no cares or woes. I strive to be that person in my every day life but, as you all know.. its so much easier said than done.
Some things that have played into fears and indecision:
-My father backed out of the wedding almost immediately.
-My best friend of 20+ years and I had a serious falling out and are no longer speaking, hence lack of Maid of Honor.
-My father bowed back in with his tail between his legs and I’ve forgiven his insanity, but part of me is afraid he’ll do it again or that his health will not hold up until the big day.
Money is tight of course, and I have some debt, as well as debt we have created together. I’m really serious about not starting our lives together and our future IN DEBT. I know its an irrational wish but it’s something I am pretty determined to accomplish, if possible.
ALL THAT BEING SAID.. do you think:
A “Destination Wedding” in Cape Cod, Mass. would be less expensive than a traditional wedding? There is a lot to take into consideration here:
-Less guests – Less Cost
-More Casual dress for bride/groom/party and all involved – Less Cost
-No airfare needed for bride/groom/immediate family – Less Cost
*Less guests means poss. family issues, and ppl getting pissy that they werent invited and/or cant attend because of distance.
*No airfare for bride/groom/immed. fam. is great but whole bridal party and of course guests will have to drive and/or fly.. resulting in a lot of $ spent to attend, and maybe no gift given because of that?
*Money to be spent on out-of-town items for all guests?
There are so many little things to think about.. can any of you sweet bee’s who have researched or had destination weddings help me out??
I’d love any feedback you could offer!