Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2015 - Golf Course
I just got engaged yesterday, but me and FI have been together for over 5 years so I’ve kind of given this stuff some thought! 😛 We are planning on having a DW because FI’s family is so large, but we also want to include them in our celebration so are thinking of hosting a backyard BBQ/desserts evening where we invite everyone over. Myself, FMIL and my mother would make up all the food, thus making it very cost effective.
My question is, would it be appropriate to still have a shower if someone offers to host, given that not everyone will be invited to the DW but we are still having a celebration right after we’re back?
I’ll make another post in a more appropriate section for this too, but would it be appropriate to send out STDs/invites to people who will just be invited to the at home party? I think it is, but I’m obviously very new to this so I wanted more opinions! Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
@FutureFong: really, a shower is a party someone else throws in your honour. If someone wants to do that for you I see no problem with it. If you’re uncomfortable, you can politely decline.
I think I’d only send STDs to the people invited to the DW – unless you’re inviting everyone and then hosting another party when you get back for those who couldn’t make the trip. I have friends who had wedding #1 in Canada and wedding #2 in China – everyone was invited to both but the couple knew full well that very few people would be able to go to both.
Post # 5
@FutureFong: we are doing a very similar thing. we will be getting married in key west, going on a cruise and come home to our at home,very casual summer bbq reception. we will only be having very close family at the actual wedding in kw, but will have pictures at the reception.
right after i told all my work girls that i was getting married they tol me they were so excited to throw me a shower.lol. so im not stopping them. it wont be for a while since our wedding inst till may 2015. but i think if they want to then its ok! everyone just wants to celebrate.
for the invitations, we will just be sending out a simple 1 page invitation to the reception. since we want it to be casual and we dont want to spend too much $$ we arent adding the save the dates/rsvps/other things that would be included in a formal invite.