Post # 1
How about this idea that I just had:
Having a small civil ceremony at our local city hall with family and friends, me wearing a short white reception dress or something like that, nothing too formal, and then at that same night a big wedding party for all of our friends in our home country, so that they can all attend and celebrate out wedding (which by then, we’ll officially be, because of the civil ceremony).
Then in the following days/week, we’ll go on a shared honeymoon WITH our family, who is very very dear to us both and all like each other (inlaws like each other too and have met multiple times) to Italy, and stay in a little romantic country village with a pool, and relax, and then after a day or two, we’ll have the symbolic ceremony with personal vows/letters to each other, in which I will wear the actual long wedding dress, do the official photo shoot, have a great dinner with wine and good Italian food with all of our families combined. And then the next day the two of us leave for a little roadtrip through Italy as a private honeymoon. So we’ll first have some days WITH our families, then some private days without as to have a real honeymoon.
Does this sound attractive at all? Is it a big no no for non-relatives who will only attend the civil ceremony/party, before the actual symbolic ceremony? I’ve actually come to love this idea, as we both love our families and its the most important thing in our lives. But I’m a bit worried that people will think it’s strange that a) the actual wedding won’t have taken place yet before the party (but that’s why we’ll have the civil ceremony on that day, so that we will be officially married), and b) that people will fnd it strange that we take our families along on our honeymoon for a couple of days and have the intimate, symbolic ceremony there.
I actually kinda love this idea!
Post # 3
@sfp: If you love it and your FH is ok with it then go for it do what pleases you guys and no one else.
Post # 4
@MrsSmith13: Yes I know that’s what it comes down to in the end. I was just wondering if anybody else had ever thought of such a thing. It might be too much over the budget, though, and might seem a bit ridiculous, to have two wedding ceremonies (one civil, one symbolic), but I do love the idea of having best of both worlds.
Post # 5
I think if you can swing it, why not?
We’re having a wedding moon where our entire families will be with us for all but the last 3 days. I think it’s going to be awesome.
Post # 6
We are actually planning on doing the exact same thing, but in Spain. We have no desire for a big wedding here so we will get legally married in a tiny ceremony (city hall type), and then have the wedding ceremony with the dress, wedding pictures and dinner in Spain with about 20 people (Immediate family and a couple collar friends). We will then spend some time with our guests and then travel around by ourselves for a week. Both FI and I want something fun and less formal and since we love traveling, we thought why not. We figure that it will cost about the same to have our ceremony in Spain as a wedding for 100 + people at home. Neither one of us are big ceremony people anyway.
Post # 7
@LyndaButterfly: Ah thanks for sharing, that sounds like you’ve planned it perfectly and suits your own wishes! Are you paying the flight and accommodation for your close family or will they do that themselves? It’ll be a holiday for them as well, of course!
Post # 8
@sfp: Sounds perfect. Could you do the civil ceremony on the down low to make it legal, then go to Italy and do your wedding and honeymoon, but then do your party with everyone when you get back? They you can show the photos of the wedding etc, tell everyone about it at the reception? That may be less “weird” for some people? Easier for others to get on board with if that’s what you are worried about.
My friends had a beautiful destination wedding just the two of them then a big party when they came back. She wore her dress again, we got to see photos etc. Either way, Italy with the family sounds beautiful!
Post # 9
@MsBeer: Yeah I had that thought too, civil ceremony first (to make it legal, then Italy, then party when we get back, but then that would mean three ‘wedding days’, and that sounds a bit outrageous. And a honeymoon before the party is a bit weird too, although I’d be nicely tanned, lol. So I thought, why not combine the civil ceremony (where even friends could attend if they wanted to) and the party on the same day? But it would be nice to show pics of the Italian-part at the party, too.. Hmm.. Ideas, ideas..
I don’t think I’d wear the same dress twice, I don’t like that idea.
Post # 10
@sfp: Fair enough. My friend wore her dress twice because it was just the two of them that went on their wedding/ honeymoon, so NO ONE saw her in it on her wedding day, just her husband. I think whatever you choose to do, if you and you FI and your families are happy that is the main thing 🙂
Post # 11
I love this idea. Having the party after the civil ceremony means that people are really celebrating with you on the wedding day. Then you get to have all the pictures and big wedding feel in Italy. I never really liked the idea of having a party after returning from a desitination wedding. (I’m afraid I would no longer be excited to celebrate) So as long as you’ll still have the excitement over the symbolic ceremony the idea is awesome!
Post # 12
Go for it! We had a DW in Florida, and most of our family/friends arrived a few days early to hang out with us. The wedding was fantastic, but the days leading up to it were so fun as well! When else do you go on a fabulous vacation with so many special people in your lives?!
Post # 13
@sfp: I say go for it!!! We had a destination wedding and had 67 people join us both family and friends!! It was amazing and we had a blast!! It was definetly a once in a lifetime trip and we have so many great memories and pictures from it that will last a lifetime 🙂
Post # 14
Do what you love!!
We’re getting married at a port off the cruise ship and taking close family and friends to see us get married and then they’ll honeymoon with us.. we’ll do different activities but they too are near and dear to us.
And when we get back we’re having a large reception for everyone who didn’t come to celebrate.