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I think that depends on how far away it is and your costs to attend, as what many people use to decide on giving an additional gift or not. In my case, I'd also give a gift.
Well on of my gfs is having a wedding in Mexico...I'll prolly get her a gift but my other friend's wedding is in AFRICA...the plane ticket alone costs $1500+ & she wants me to be in the wedding...
DH and I had a DW in Florida. Most of our guests gave us a monetary gift and some did not. DH and I didn't 'expect' gifts from anyone. I think it's all based on what you can afford. That said, DH and I will be attending a DW in the Florida Keys in a couple weeks; we will be giving a gift, as well.
depends on how far the travel is. Mine is going to be out of town for everyone, I am not expecting anything from those who have had to purchase a airfair.... honestly.
This might be bitchy or needy- but yes, I would expect a gift. It's like a birthday- you should at least give something. Even if it is $10 to their favorite restaurant.
My wedding is in Europe, so people from my side will be spending at least 1200-1500 on airfare alone, not to mention hotels, food, etc. I have absolutely no expectations of gifts from people who are already spending a ton to see me - their presence is enough, especially considering most of my family can't attend anyways.
If it was me if I attend a DW it means they are obviously pretty close to me so I would still bring a gift.
Cost of the trip will likely determine how $$$ the gift is. But I would still bring something even if it's small. That's just me though.
Why can't someone I know get married in Europe!!! I would so go because it'll be a great excuse to go back! hahah
@regberadaisy: Lol! Yeah, I think my FI's grandmas are a little dissapointed we aren't doing it in the States....these adorable French women wanted to take a vacation to Vegas and gamble. True story.
As someone having a DW, I would HOPE that people would give us SOMETHING, but honestly don't expect much because they are paying to travel to an all-inlcusive, some need to get passports, etc. It was something FI and I considered when planning but the fact is even if you have a wedding at home some people will still think their "presence" is gift enough (not trying to start a debate on gift ettiqutte just stating a fact) so we decided to go for the wedding we actually wanted and could have as opposed to throwing a wedding we didn't want in the hopes of getting presents.
I would say bring something small and thoughtful if you can. We are having a DW and while people are coming to Myrtle Beach, there is no requirement that they attend if they can't afford it. (We undersdtand). When I have been invited to weddings that have cost a lot and I have a tight budget, I usually bring something I put more thought than money into. A photo album with pictures of the couple that I have or even something handmade. ETSY is a great site for stuff like that. It doesn't have to be a blender or something big... small and thoughful is ok too.
We are having a DW as well. I appreciate the ones that are spending the time and money to join us. I wouldn't be hurt is there were no gifts but I do think it would be nice. If you can give even a card with a gift cert. that would be nice :) Have fun at the wedding!
I'm having a DW in Ireland, so I know people will be spending a lot on airfare. I'm actually just thrilled that people from Canada are coming, so no, I don't expect a gift as well. I'd be happy with just a card. But knowing my family (very few even said anything when we got engaged) I wouldn't be surprised if they didn't come and didn't send a card either.
We had a DW and totally understood that many could not afford a gift given the cost of attending. But I have to admit, it felt like a slap in the face to not even get a card. If you can't afford a gift, I would at least give them a card. I also found it very comforting when guests actually thanked US for giving them a reason to take such a great trip! I think a note of thanks like that in a card could go a long way in place of a gift!
I'm having a DW and do not expect a present from anyone. We created a honeymoon registry for those who want to give something but having everyone there is more than we could as for!
I think it's nice to get something small, if you can afford it; if I was going to a DW I would probably get them a card, and take photos with my DSLR, and make a nice album for them after the wedding (ie something small and personal that doesn't cost too much). I wouldn't get an expensive gift, and would be peeved if I was expected to; I don't earn much, and for me the cost of attending would be all I could afford.
I don't think people who have DW should expect gifts; the gift should be the fact your guests have paid a lot of money to come, and also sacrificed their holiday to come. While I would go if a friend had a destination wedding, I would be a little peeved at having to use it as my main holiday, as my annual trip with my OH is one of the only luxuries I allow myself, and sacrificing that would be a big thing for both of us.
I agree! As someone else who's having a DW I dont expect $$$ but I would be upset if I didnt get a card with a sweet message.
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If someone has a DW is my "presence" their present or do I still need to bring a gift???