Post # 1
So my fiance and I are having a destination wedding next May and it feels really awkward to register for gifts since the people that are invited are paying for their trips etc. I wouldn’t even consider registering at all but now people are asking if we are so should we? I don’t know how that is supposed to work – I would be totally grateful for people just to come and I don’t want to seem greedy by telling people we’ve registered.
Post # 4
@aamyfisher: We had a DW and registered. People didn’t mind, at least I never heard anything! I think its a good idea as long as your not making your guests feel like they NEED to get you something.
Post # 5
@aamyfisher: I had a destiantion wedding and we also registered somewhere. We didnt go around annoucing it but when people asked about a gift I jsut said we were registered at so and so. Most people just gave us money anyways so that was nice 🙂
Post # 6
You know, I wasn’t planning to register for this very reason. But people (mostly people who knew they wouldn’t be able to make the wedding) started asking me where I was registered. Thus far, the only gifts I’ve received from my registry are from people who RSVPd no. That’s fine with me as I wasn’t expecting any gifts at all.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Walnut Beach Resort
We registered, but we didn’t register for a lot. Maybe 15 items priced between $50 and $150. (75 guests). Some people are only comfortable buying from a registery, so I did it for those people. We got maybe 5 of the items. We got mostly cash, GCs or items people chose themselves, even though I wasn’t expecting a lot! (Our DW wasn’t an expensive plane ride away, it was a drive and an expensive hotel though!)
Post # 8
I’d register, but just don’t announce it anywhere other than to the people who specifically ask. I keep telling people that they shouldn’t buy us presents, but everyone really seems to want to. I know that as a guest, it’s less stressful for me if there is a registry, so I think you should provide that stress-relief to those who ask for it.
Post # 9
Do you have a wedding website? If so, You could register and put it on the website and people look at that all the time for remembering what’s going on in case they can’t find their invite, etc.
Post # 10
I do not plan on registering. I know “gifts are never to be expected or required”, but people give gifts for weddings. I don’t want them to feel obligated because of tradition to give a gift, while our wedding is still within the US it is a plan ride and hotel stay. I feel guests giving gifts on top of that is too much. I am thinking about having on a note on the website that “your presence is your present”
Post # 11
We put on our invites that we do not want gifts, that you coming to the wedding was already a gift to us.
Post # 12
I did a DW and was DEAD SET on not registering. People were giving us a lot of pressure about it, but I really thought it would look greedy.
Then my mom and sister insisted that I register for my shower so I put togeter a small registry. We actually got in a pretty big fight about it. Anyway, i think it was fine. We actually got a ton of gifts (cash and registry) even though it was a DW. I was quite surprised about that.