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I was a bridesmaid in a destination wedding, and we paid for own rooms and our own flight tickets transportation etc. I don't know if that is etiquette to pay for rooms but maybe you can help and pay one night for them if you feel strongly about it. If your wedding is at a hotel is the hotel giving you room block discounts? Ideally it would be easier to have your party stay at the same place your wedding is but it just means they are possibly going to have all their getting ready stuff in your room the day of the wedding and will have to get it sometime after the wedding. But those are just details, if they can taxi back and forth from the 20 min away hotel that could be a possibility as long as they have options. I wouldn't  think you were not following etiquette or not being thoughtful for not paying for their hotel rooms though. 

oh and you can always help offset hotel room costs by paying for their hair or make up. I am paying for my bms hair as part of their gift, it may not pay for their room but it still helps offset their costs.  

glad I could help because seriously $400x6 a night is a lot to pay for!

I can relate to this because I am going through this right now.

Basically- my entire immediate family is staying at a 4 star hotel. I reserved a two bedroom, two bathroom, full living room, full kitchen, balcony suite. It can comfortably fit six people in it. I asked all the ladies to stay with me. And if they want to pitch in they can (because I have friends who wouldn't dare take a 'hand out', while I have other friends who wouldn't even think about staying at such a place due to the expense). But in reality, I didn't want people staying at places scattered around the town just because they wanted to find a place they could afford. It worked out in my case. But I am most likely footing the majority of the bill. And this is just for the nights leading up to our wedding. NOT the wedding night. (three nights) Because of the six girls- four are coming from out of state. So I wanted to help where I could. (And plus I am using a rewards credit card, so I do get some minor benefit from it)

there are other circumstances(like we are hosting my dad's surprise party at the hotel), but the hotel has been very accomodating to making reductions in certain areas. Try to state a case for yourself. Hotels nationwide are down 20% of their usual profits. Do the research, say to the hotel "look I am trying to do X, Y, &Z. Is there anyway you can reduce the retail for 'X' amt of days for the following people in my bridal party- otherwise we are going to go to such and such place who offered us this and more for what you are offering." 

If you get anyone of your vendors who refers you to someone else- ask mgt if they provide referral discounts. Because I was able to get 10% off of a service due to this.

If someone in your family is in the military or law enforcement ask if they can provide a discount.

As an aside- if you can just get some sort of suite where all the girls can share and split the cost... get an inflatable bed so the hotel doesn't know you are hosting more girls the the room can accomodate. ;o) (I know this sounds so bad- but I had to do that at one of my friends weddings too- but it worked out so all of us could split the costs).

You have to get ballsy and start finding ways to cut where you can. You can do it- but arm yourself with what is being offered in the area so you can try getting good deals for your group.

I hope that helps?

It's awesome that you could help out a bit. Since ur wedding party prefers to stay at the same location as ur wedding & is willing to pay for it (w/ ur subsidization), then everything is good to go!

What we've decided to do is to book a shuttle that takes ppl from their lodging (20 min drive away) to the ceremony and from the reception back to their lodging. I figure it's a good compromise since my budget is quite limited. The shuttle costs about $500-600, I think.