Thanks for the replies ladies. Well, I really love the idea of a DW. Small, intimate, on vacation with your closest family and friends. It sounds amazing. I hear how much easier it is to plan but I’m such a perfectionist I’m afraid it would drive me nuts not being able to be there and see everything in person. I guess the email thing would work though. That’s a good point that I’d be able to send a ton of pictures through that.
I’m thinking of St. Lucia, Jamaica, Mexico, Turks & Caicos, or DR. We just started dipping out feet in the water about this topic it so nothing is 100% yet.
I’m also concerned about the guest list. Where do I draw the line on friends. With some gf’s, I’d just want to invite them and not their husbands who I am not close to and my honey doesn’t even know them. Would that be okay? And also debating which family members to invite and which to not. I’m really trying to keep my guest list small. Especially because I’m concerned about how much a DW would cost us. Most would assume a DW would be cheaper, but in our case it is going to be much more expensive because my dear honey is wanting to pick up the tab for everyone’s trip. Yes, you read that correctly. He wants to pay for all flights/hotel stay for everyone. That’d be fine if it was a ten person wedding, but we’re thinking 50-60. I mean it just sounds nuts. My mom thinks we are crazy and has voiced her opinion to me more than once yesterday and today. The problem is this, I have a ton of family that I’d want to invite. For example a cousin 20 minutes away has a wife and 4 kids. I just think it’s nuts to spend over $6,000 just on them alone. And I can’t not invite them. I do want them at our wedding. Then I think of things like gifts for bridal party, favors, gift baskets for each guest in their room upon arrival and I just think it would be too much. Personally, if we end up going with a DW, and if we pick up the tab I do not plan on doing any of these things. Essentially it will really be him paying for everyone because my $11 an hour job won’t do us anything, but he finishes his medical residency next year and will be having a huge pay increase therefore allowing him to do this. The way I see it, the trip would be all that and then some for our guests, no? And I really mean that in the nicest way. Who needs favors and gift baskets? Would that be rude if I didn’t do any of that? I dunno, it sounds like so much money and it’s already making me apprehensive, even if he can afford to do this. Sorry for this being so long and turning into a vent, I can’t really talk about this to anyone yet because we don’t wanna say anything till we know what we are doing and I don’t want people to be bummed if we don’t do a DW… even though we both really want one. He just doesn’t want to make our loved ones feel obligated to pay so much because we want to get married the way we do. And since most of the reasons why people don’t attend are financial ones, I’m assumming most everyone is going to say yes to the trip.
Then you factor in decorations/flowers, photographer, cake, flying in a DJ from Chicago (we want our wedding to have some of our culture in it which includes the music), food, etc. I just don’t want people to think we are trying to “show off”. Especially all those in our city who are not invited. I feel like people will immediately start running their mouths. I probably need to pay no attention to that.
When doing a wedding at an all-inclusive resort, are the decorations, food, photographer, wedding planner, all included in your wedding package? Or did you have to pay each separately? How does it work exactly?
Also, what months are best to buy tickets and book a resort in the Caribbean’s? Did the hotel give a good discount deal when you were booking for a wedding party? Will you also get discounts on flights? Please share your experiences about this. Thank you!
Oh yea, and did any of you out there ever regret doing a DW?